Dispelling the myths about Online Domination.

It is a common misconception among the ignorant that Online Domination is not really BDSM and that those who offer it; are not really Dominatrices. 

The fact is; Online Domination is just as popular as real-time Domination and in many respects; is often much more intense.

The major difference between real time and online is that there is far more psychology involved. "Setting the scene" in person is far easier than it is when you set the scene at a distance. In addition; you're not physically there to ensure slave obeys; so it goes without saying that it takes a greater amount of control to ensure your slave fulfils every single command you give. 

What you have to remember is that Online Dommes do not allow any perceived limitations to become obstacles in their control on their slaves. Rather; they go around them to ensure both Domme and slave receives the best possible experience. This takes a lot of thought on the part of the Domme. She is verbally painting pictures of a BDSM scenario to really allow slave to put his head into the scene and the mindset She expects. It takes a very creative and knowledgeable person to be able to do that; in order to make it as close to the real thing as possible.

And then there's the issue of safety; especially ensuring the safety of slave. In a real-time situation, a Domme can quickly halt any proceedings to ensure slave does not suffer any injury or long-term negative effects of any BDSM practice. That responsibility is much larger when in an online position; because She doesn't have the luxury of being able to do that. Indeed; aftercare after an online session is just as important as it is during a real-time session; more so in many cases. Domme has to rely on slave to ensure he follows Her instructions in order to remain within the realms of safe, sane play. It also means that Domme absolutely has to be fully aware of any potential risks encountered throughout various BDSM practises and have measure in place to ensure slave is not exposed to those risks.

So why does online domination receive such a bad reputation from those who don't really know anything about it?

Indeed; it could be argued that it's not as good as the real thing. Arguably, more control is seized in a real-time scenario. But the fact that it's purely online based does not make it any less tangible. A good online Dominatrix has the ability to make the session seem as though She is really in the room with the slave. She does this not by just sitting there on a webcam and barking orders at Her submissive; but by fully interacting with him and ensuring he plays a very active part in the session. It's all too easy to sit there and say "right slave; this is what I would do if I was there..." Yes; you could do that. But slave is easily going to get bored. It is also commonly known that men are rather more visual then they are imaginative. In terms of porn; men like it to be blunt and to the point; no kissy-kissy romance. They like it dirty and they like it with no holes barred, and they like it in their face. A good Domme knows and demonstrates this.

"Online Domination is not REAL Domination - so why should I have to pay for it?"

Let's put it into a clear perspective here. As I've mentioned above; a good Online Dominatrix will be seriously clued up on safe, sane practices. Whether it be a real-time or online setting; you are still putting your trust in Her 100%. You are also giving up 100% control to Her. When you enjoy an online session with Her; you're not just talking to Her on webcam. You're enjoying years of knowledge and expertise. She is a specialist in the art of BDSM; having spent years learning & researching it. She will often know far more about it than you do; which is why She has the ability to take full control. And She will also be teaching you a few things about not only the BDSM scene, but about yourself along the way. Yes; you could probably go into a chat room and chat to somebody for free about it. But I guarantee; you won't get the same experience and knowledge as you would from actually having a session with a Professional Dominatrix. BDSM is Her career. She's selling a service. And as all good sales-people know; if you're going to sell something; you have to know your product inside and out. If you don't have seller-confidence; how are you ever going to achieve buyer-confidence?

So of course if you're seeking the services of a Professional Online Dominatrix, is perfectly right to expect to pay Her for Her time. She is an expert at what She does. The fact that it's kink shouldn't make a blind bit of difference. Like any other expert; She's offering a service.

In My personal & professional opinion; the bad press which sometimes surrounds Online Domination is brought on by a combination of lack of knowledge both on the part of the submissive and the "Domme" who has not learned Her trade. There are many girls out there who portray themselves as an online "Femdom". You approach them; pay your money and receive absolutely NOTHING to do with the BDSM/Fetish scene. Instead; what you receive is some nasty little brat calling you every name under the sun; while she demands you pay her more money. Of course such an experience is going to leave a bad taste in your mouth and put you off the whole thing.

But keep and open mind. There are many Online Dommes who ARE the genuine article yet don't offer real-time sessions for a variety of different reasons. Those reasons are not limited to them being "fakes". It could be that they are in the same position as Myself - they are in a romantic D/s relationship and therefore are not prepared to take on any real-time slaves unless and until that situation changes. Or perhaps its a safety issue. Or maybe they simply don't have the space to offer real-time. In short; it's down to personal choice - horses for courses. And those choices should be respected; not dismissed out of ignorance.

The truth is; if you've never tried Online Domination before, you truly don't know what you're missing! 

CONDITIONS FOR SERVING ME.

Many boys want to know about the conditions in place for serving Me and the rules are really very simple.

1. You MUST be aged 21 or over.
2. You MUST NOT be owned or under consideration.
3. You MUST be prepared to commit to at least 2 webcam sessions per month or 3 email assignments per month.
4. You MUST be GENUINELY SUBMISSIVE - right from your application I will be able to tell if you are not.
5. You MUST understand that My services are not free. Fee is always expected.
6. You MUST NOT dictate the terms of your servitude. While I will respect your limits; I will not bend My rules to suit you.
7. You MUST understand that serving Me is about Me. Your wants and needs do not even enter into the equation.
8. You MUST understand that orgasm/relief is NOT GUARANTEED. Only I have the power to decide if and when you may cum. I will only decide if I feel you have done enough to earn it.
9. You MUST understand the difference between "fees" and "tributes." Fees are what you pay for a session. Tributes are gifts given freely without expectation and obligation.
10. You MUST have at least a basic knowledge of BDSM. If you don't then you will be expected to read and learn BEFORE you approach. While I will happily train those who a new to the scene; I will not train those who are ignorant to it.
11. You MUST be honest about your likes and dislikes. I am not psychic and I expect you to be forthcoming with the truth.
12. You MUST be prepared to surrender control to Me 100%. If you have any shadow of doubt in your mind; then you should not approach. Submission is either given or it isn't.
13. You MUST NOT assume that you will become My property overnight. It takes a lot of hard-work, dedication, loyalty and servitude to reach that honour. Some will never achieve it. Only the most obedient and dedicated; will.

These rules cannot be clearer and the onus is on you to read and understand them. I do not take ignorance as an excuse. If you haven't done your homework from day one; that tells Me that you are not serious enough about serving and will not last the distance. Remember; I take QUALITY above quantity. And to be taken seriously; your application must reflect that you have the quantities I seek in a slave. 

Chastity Sub becomes My owned pet.

It gives Me great pleasure to announce that Chastity Sub has achieved the highest honour after going above and beyond in his servitude and is now a fully owned pet. Here you can see him in the position he is expected to adopt when he presents himself to Me - naked, kneeling, hands behind his back and of course wearing his slave collar. He will be having a nice little tag attached to the collar once it's been fully engraved....I'm saving that as a reward if he pleases Me between now and his six month review.

Chastity Sub is the second of My owned pets; the first being Panty Boy. It may surprise you to know that I have only two slaves under My ownership. And why is this? Because I take QUALITY over quantity. Ownership is not something which happens automatically. It takes months of hard work; selfless servitude and exceptional behaviour to achieve this honour. And while many slaves serve Me; only those who meet My high standards are ever considered for ownership. Like both Chastity Sub and Panty Boy have; they must prove themselves worthy of this prestigious position. Many won't - but a few will be an exception. And it is those few who will attract My attention.

Of course ownership is only the beginning of the journey. Once you become My pet; that's when the REAL hard work starts. Just as ownership can be given; it can also be taken away. It is your duty to continue to work hard to please Me in order to hang on to that status. This means going above and beyond in your servitude; always keeping Mistress at the forefront of your mind. Chastity Sub and Panty Boy will last that distance. Both have the qualities I look for in a slave. Their devotion to Me will never falter; because they know how much My presence in their lives mean to them. They please Me not because I expect them to. But because they WANT to. The thought of disappointing Me is too terrible to imagine and they will do whatever they can to win My approval - THIS is what makes a good slave. And THIS is why only a few ever find themselves under My consideration. Slaves like these boys are among the elite. And they know what they must do in order to remain in that elite - always loyal, always devoted, always selfless and always obedient. And in turn; I am proud of them to have reached this exceptionally high standard. 

The Bitch is Back!

You will be pleased to know that I'm now fully recovered from the flu bug and ready to get My bitch on! Online domination sessions will resume today - and after a week off; I'm more than ready to demonstrate who's Boss!

Today is Sinful Sunday. I know full well that many of you will have committed disgusting sins in My absence. Well today is the day you PAY for those sins. Through some strict behaviour modification; you will soon learn the error of your ways. Impure thoughts about Mistress will be removed from your mind and you will learn to become a fully compliant, selfless little worm again. 

My Church of Pain was designed for this - for the filthy specimens who cannot keep their hands away from their maggots; for those who still fail to accept their true position in life; for those who seem to think their pleasure is all important. I remind you now that there is only one God; and it's Me!

Enter the Church of Pain and through sadistic suffering; you will soon learn that your sole need is to please those who are above you. You will quickly learn your place is at My feet; crawling on your belly like an insignificant little grub. You will learn to respect My Superiority and you will relish in suffering for My entertainment as I demonstrate this. Self-obsessed morons may not approach. Those who are ready to be broken and moulded may crawl forward...

CHURCH OF PAIN - CLICK TO ENTER.

Online Servitude Positions Available.

I currently have 4 vacancies for slaves who wish to be trained online via webcam, instant messenger and phone chat.

You will be aged 21 or over, be completely submissive, selfless, honest and open to BDSM experimentation. You MUST be able to commit to at least one 10 minute online session per week. You need not be experienced in BDSM; but you will at least have a basic knowledge of the scene. You will also have a basic knowledge of how to approach and converse with a Superior Dominatrix.

You will understand that serving Me is about Me. Indeed; it is not about what I can do for you. Rather it is a case of what you can do for Me. You will remember that you are to serve only with Mistress in mind. You will understand that your needs are of no importance to Me. In fact; I will only consider your needs once you have met Mine. You will remember that and your application to serve will reflect this.

You will be expected to be 100% honest about your kinks, fetishes and limits. You will treat your application to serve as an application for a job - this means you will detail exactly WHY I should consider you. You will understand that Mistress has very high standards - and you will strive hard to meet them. I will not take applications which clearly display minimum effort. Your efforts in your servitude must be absolute maximum at all times.

You will understand what true submission means. It means you are giving yourself to Me completely. You will understand that as your Mistress; I will dominate every area of your life and you will freely accept this. As well as accepting it; you will also embrace it as the only way you can truly live from now on.

Do you feel you have what it takes to please Me? Are you able to meet My exceptionally high standards?

Then get in touch via the email address below and tell Me WHY you would be useful to Me and WHY you feel I should give you My attention. Show Me that you are truly deserving of this privileged position.

mistresscristal@mail.com

Why Applying To Serve Is Not Only About Tributes...

It may surprise you to know that serving a Dominatrix is way more than throwing tributes Her way. Now I know that at this point; many boys will have to pick themselves off the floor due to shock, but you're about to receive a very good education in what servitude actually means. And no; it doesn't mean salivating over being spanked while you wank your little maggot. That's not servitude - not by even the slightest stretch of the imagination.

Submission to another is either given or it is isn't. But there are no half measures. Submission is exactly what it sounds like. You submit to the will of another. You give up all power and control and give yourself freely to the control of a Superior. This means your opinions do not matter. Your body becomes the property of the one who owns you. Your thinking is not of yourself but of the one who controls you. In fact every single thing you say or do; is with the Dominant in mind. You become selfless and act only on the commands and directions of somebody else. Every single independent thing about yourself becomes non-existent and is replaced by a dependency on your Dominant. You depend on them to show you the way of how you should speak, act, live and behave. You live your life for them and never for yourself.

So why then are you surprised that your offer of tribute has been refused? Well let's talk about that. Many Dommes will relate to opening up their emails and reading countless messages of "Can I be your slave? If I send tribute, will you own me?" The genuine Dommes among us will ignore those messages. If in fact tribute has been sent in addition to said email; that tribute will be sent back.

But that's how to approach a Domme right? That's how you attract their attention, isn't it? WRONG! You cannot win over a Dominatrix with the promise or act of tribute. Tribute is just the tip of the iceberg. Anybody can send a gift certificate or add funds to a google wallet account. It takes all of five minutes and requires the minimum of effort. And yet you expect for be owned as a result of that tiny effort? Not going to happen.

While it is true that you should expect to pay for the time of a Dominatrix; don't fool yourself into thinking that is all She wants from you. She wants to know what you can DO for her. How are you going to entertain Her? What are you going to do to please Her? Are you going to be obedient and carry out every single one of Her commands without questions? Are you going to completely give yourself over to Her every whim? THAT is what you should be considering when you approach a Dominatrix. Offering tribute in return for ownership means you are already setting conditions and expectations from Her. You are attempting to call the shots and be in control of the relationship. Why would a Dominatrix want to consider owning somebody who does that?

If you are going to submit to the will of another; you should understand that you have no business setting conditions before you start. Mistress will set those conditions IF She wants to speak to you. And you will learn to live by those conditions whether you like it or not. But as far as you're concerned; your servitude is unconditional. You simply do as you're told - that's the bottom line. She commands - and you do.

So for all those who are still unconvinced ask yourself this: Would you approach a prospective employer in the same manner? Would you sit in the interview and say; "if I give you money, will you employ me?" I didn't think so. Applying to serve a Dominatrix is very much like applying for a job. You tell your prospective employer what you can bring to the company in terms of your skills and expertise. You sell yourself to them so that they want to consider you. If you're not qualified for the job; a sizeable cheque included with your job application isn't going to make the slightest difference...

Mistress Has Openings.

I am currently taking applications from slaves wishing to serve via WEBCAM. You will be aged 21 or over and able to commit to at least one 20 minute webcam session per week. You will be intelligent, educated, honest and dedicated. You will aim to serve with only Mistress in mind; never yourself and will understand that your needs are not important. Indeed; your needs will only be acknowledged after My needs are met. 

I consider Myself to be a very elite Dominatrix - which means I will only take on slaves who are articulate, genuine and 100% open to learning what it takes to serve a Superior Female. Serving Me is not a chore. It is a privilege; and you will keep this in mind in your initial application and beyond.

Not all will have what it takes to attract My attention. But the lucky few who do will enjoy embarking on an exciting journey of not only servitude; but self-discovery. You will learn things about yourself which you never knew existed; and you will be given the opportunity to embrace this new found knowledge as I peel away the layers. Your sub-conscious will be opened to new thinking and you will achieve a sense of pride in not only pleasing Mistress; but also enjoying the psychological gifts I will enable you to discover. 

But be aware that this comes with an element of obligation on your part; and you will be expected to give yourself to Me of your own free will - entirely. And while I of course acknowledge and respect your hard limits; understand that freedom of choice does not apply to you. It is your duty to obey. Whatever command I give you; you will obey. Whatever task I set you; you will obey. Whatever demand I make of you; you will obey. Your submission will be complete and unrestrained. And as you continue on your journey; you will find that it becomes second nature. You will not WANT to live any other way.

Can you handle this new way of life? Do you have what it takes to turn My head and elicit My consideration? If so; you may apply in writing at the email address below. Your application will brief but well written. You will tell Me a little about yourself; but more importantly; you will tell Me WHY I should consider you. Do not be tempted to be obsequious - I am intelligent and will instantly see through that. You will start your application process as you mean to go on - respectful, to the point and professional. I will not settle for anything less.

mistresscristal@mail.com

EMAIL SLAVES REQUIRED.

I currently have 2 vacancies for slaves who wish to serve Me via email. You will be expected to complete weekly email tasks to My satisfaction and by a due date set. Each task will be specifically written for your particular kinks and fetishes, and you will be expected to provide a full written report and photographic/video evidence of you completing each task. Subject to your agreement; these photographs/videos will be published on My website for the world to see your humiliation.

You MUST be aged 21 or over to be considered. I will make no exceptions. You must also be 100% submissive, honest and obedient. I expect you to complete each task with ME in mind. Remember; serving Me is about ME and not you. Your needs don't even enter in to the equation.

If you feel you have what it takes to serve Me in this manner; you may read all about Email Training via the link below and apply in writing to:

mistresscristal@mail.com

www.thecristaldomme.com/p/email-assignments.html

Remember; put effort into your application - so that I put effort into reading it. Find out more about how you should apply here.

How to apply to serve Me.

Everyday, I open My inbox to lots of email applications from subs wanting to serve Me on-line. And if I'm completely honest; only a few will actually capture My interest. Only a handful will be worthy of a response; with the rest being swept into the trash can - where they remain.

When you apply to serve Me, you have only ONE chance to create a good impression. And I'm not talking about showering Me with tributes. That does not show Me you genuinely wish to serve. If your email shows Me you simply don't have what it takes to serve Me; you will not be able to buy My attention. And of course I will refuse your tribute; because you are not worthy of Me. Money talks - but for Me; what you can DO; talks louder.

You should treat your application to serve like you are applying for a job - but with much more ass kissing. That said; you should not come across as obsequious because I can and will see through that. I'd much rather you be honest about your intentions rather than telling Me what you think I want to hear. Honesty is the best policy where I'm concerned and you should always be honest - even if being honest means you have to talk about your weaknesses as well as your strengths. That at least shows Me that you are human - and are not perfect. And while I expect you to dance to My tune; serving Me is a personal thing - so you should at least allow your personality to come through in your application.

Now let's go back to when you write a written application for a job. You wouldn't just write; "Need a job! Employ me!" So when you email Me with; "I'm a slave! Please own me!" it equates to the same. It tells me absolutely nothing. It doesn't tell Me about you, about your experience, about your aspirations, about your strengths and weaknesses. What it does tell Me though; is with that simple and ineffective sentence; you can't be bothered. And if you can't be bothered to put some effort into your application; then I fail to see how you will be bothered to put effort into your servitude.

So what should you put in your application to serve? Well it isn't actually that difficult, even for the novice. Like I said; treat it as an application for employment. Create a good impression - be informative and honest. Kiss ass but don't go over the top. Sell yourself - that at the end of the day; that is what you are doing - you are selling yourself to Me. But you have to work at it if you want Me to "buy". And because I'm a firm but fair Mistress; below I have included a few tips for you to follow:

• Always start your application email in a RESPECTFUL manner. "Hi hun" is NOT the way. "Dear Mistress" is a good start.
• Introduce yourself correctly - give your name, your age, your background, your marital status. Tell Me a little about yourself - but don't go overboard. I don't want to read an application which is the length of a bible.
• Talk about any experience you have had - good or bad. Talk about how long ago you had these experiences. How did these experiences make you feel?
• Talk about what you can offer in terms of servitude - but do this from MY point of view - not yours. If you start talking about how you have a massive dick and you can satisfy Me then I'm going to stop reading. You're serving your own needs - and will continue to do so. And those who only seek to serve their own needs will not be serving Mine.
• Talk about your kinks and fetishes - what makes you tick? What fetishes do you enjoy the most? What fetishes are you curious about and want to explore? 
• At the same time; talk about your limits - things you are NOT into. I receive so many emails with the words "I'll do anything you say!" I guarantee you won't. Those who say this fall into several categories a) again they can't be bothered b) again they're thinking with their dicks and what's in it for them, c) they know nothing about fetish or BDSM and are painfully showing their ignorance on the matter.
• Talk about your strengths and weaknesses - what area of servitude do you excel at and what area do you feel needs more work?
• Talk about how your servitude fits in with your lifestyle. Does your significant other know about this side of your personality? Do you require your servitude to be completely private or are you happy for your slave journey to be published on My website? Do you need total discretion? Remember, if anonymity is needed then it shall be given. I will ALWAYS respect that. But if you are quite the exhibitionist; then of course I will respect that too! :-)
• How do you wish to serve? Do you wish to serve via text, email, phone or webcam? How often are you able to serve? 
• Do you have any toys or equipment to use in our on-line sessions? Do you have any lingerie or fetish clothing? What items do you have? Are you prepared to acquire more?
•  DON'T MAKE DEMANDS. A slave never demands something. The words "I want" will get you nothing. However the words "I would like" I will consider.
• Finally and MOST IMPORTANTLY; understand that while I will help you in your journey of exploring your kinky side; I will not be sexually interactive with you. A common misconception among the unenlightened is that Mistress will have sex with Her slaves - cyber or otherwise. No, that doesn't happen - ever. No Professional Dominatrix I know of has sex with Her servants. And that is why you will never see full nudity from a Professional Mistress. The whole agenda is that Mistress' body is out of bounds for you - because you are unworthy of it. But that doesn't mean She can't tease you. Of course She can tell you about the intimate areas of Her body - because She knows it will tease you into a frenzy - but She will NEVER show them to you - because those areas are not for you. And She will enjoy reminding you of this important fact. Understand and respect that, and realise that these are the dynamics of a Domme/sub relationship. 

So now that I've very kindly given you the "tools" to begin; the rest is up to you. I'm certainly not going to tell you exactly what to write in your application - because I'm not going to do the hard work for you. And let's be clear on this; serving Me IS hard work because I have very high expectations. And it is for that reason I am very selective when it comes to choosing who is worthy of My attention. But with the hard work comes the reward - praise and approval from Mistress and pride in the fact that you have pleased Her. While it's true - pleasure from satisfying your selfish needs is nice - it's not long lasting. Pride in your efforts is - and will shine through far longer than the after-glow of a self-induced orgasm!

Ready to try and gain My interest? Then apply to serve Me by emailing Me at the address below:

mistresscristal@mail.com

Cam Days Week Commencing 25th May.

This week will see a change to My usual cam schedule because PS has a birthday on Sunday - so I will be spending all day "playing" with him and giving him My exclusive attention. You boys will just have to imagine all the things I'm going to do to him...and in turn; have him do to Me...

So, I will be available on cam, between 12.30pm and 5pm on the following days:

Wednesday 27 May.

Thursday 28 May.

Friday 29 May.

Saturday 30 May.

On Thursday, I will be doing a couple of hours in the evening from 6pm until 8pm.

Sessions are conducted via Skype and are booked in advance. Tribute is via Amazon UK Gift Card only. If you wish to book; simply email Me at the address below:

mistresscristal@mail.com

Education for idiots.

There are some days when you're on cam and it's just great. Busy, busy busy - lots of good, well-mannered boys eager to serve. And they serve well; knowing exactly what is expected of them. You finish your cam sessions for the day feeling happy and satisfied, and looking forward to the next day.

And some days you get on cam and you're plagued by idiots. I'm not just talking the odd one or two. I'm talking one after another. They're in the droves, like a plague of locusts all flocking to My cam room with the most ridiculous of "suggestions" in how they may best serve Me:

"Miss, will you measure my huge dick?"
"Mistress, will you fuck yourself while I wank?"
"Give me a free preview Miss, then I'll take you private."
"Yo bitch, you're gonna be my slave."

And the list goes on...each one more stupid than the last. I spend the whole time with My finger hovering over the "kick" button.

Then they're at it on twitter....

"Miss, follow me please..."
"Will you pls follow?"
"I wanna be your friend!"

I don't need your friendship...I have friends..and I didn't find them by begging strangers on twitter.

So here's a few "pointers" to hopefully slap the idiot out of you.

1. I don't follow back unless you are a) owned by Me or b) have made a tribute...period.
2. I'm not interested in your dick. I don't care about it...it is not important to Me.
3. There is a reason why I advertise Myself as "Dominant" ...I'm NEVER submissive.
4. There are no "free previews" or "try before you buy". My attention is not for free. If you want it - pay for it.
5. "Hey" is not the way to greet Mistress. "Hey" is for horses.
6. Neither is "bby, honey, sexy, sweetie, bb, babe, or gorgeous."
7. Free preview is not for explicit chat. I will tell you this ONCE and ONCE only - then you're gone; never to return.
8. Serving Me is about My needs. Only when you have pleased Me will I consider your needs.
9. I wear what I like on webcam. I'm not about to change into something else because it's what you want. What you want isn't important.
10. I'm not here to make you cum. I may consider allowing you to cum IF you please Me. Don't assume you'll always be allowed relief. Your relief depends on how well you serve Me.
11. "I'll do anything you want" is FUCKING BORING. If that's how you think you can serve then you're not worthy of My attention. Those who say they will "do whatever I want" are kicked out of My cam room, never to return.
12. I don't do text speak. If you're too lazy to properly string a sentence together, then you're too lazy to serve Me.
13. My AdultWork profile is there for you to READ; not just look at the pictures.
14. No I don't meet...and anyone who asks this clearly hasn't done their research...the result of which will be them being blocked.

Finally here's the answer to the most annoying question:

"Mistress, do you get naked?"

There is a lot more to Domination than whips and chains....

Controlling a submissive is not always about whips and chains. It is a very common misconception that serving a Dominatrix involves physical suffering and pain. On the contrary. In actual fact; domination is 90% psychological and 10 % physical.

My subs enjoy the fact that each session has a lasting effect and it has nothing to do with pain and marking. Many of My slaves prefer not to have marks, for obvious reasons. Sessions are a well kept secret between Domme and sub; which is why trust is a very important issue in this field. When you are serving a Dominatrix; you are putting your complete trust in Her and the fact that you do have a life outside of your kinks.

I digress. The lasting effect My subs enjoy is the way I make them feel. Whilst they fear Me and My unpredictable nature; they also feel safe with Me. They feel a sense of freedom in being able to express their kinky side without fear of their privacy being breached. I suppose in a sense I am like a kinky "Agony Aunt", except I've no interest in hearing about how their wife fucked the babysitter and now she's pregnant (unless it's a cuckold session of course!). I'm more interested in what makes them tick.

More often that not; they don't necessarily have to tell Me what makes them tick. With the very basic amount of information; I can start working My way into their psyche and start paying attention to "triggers". It is these triggers which alert Me to what they crave and need. The more triggers I pick upon, the more layers I peel away until I finally reach their kinky core - and it's then that I've entered their mind - in every sense.

It's kind of hard to explain what the triggers are. It could be a reference to something, or even a sound they make. It could even be an almost imperceptible flash in their eyes. But whatever it is; the moment I see it, that's when I know I've got them. It's like fishing in a way. You cast out your line with a nice juicy worm. The fish sees the worm and are instantly drawn to it. And then they take a bite - that's the moment you reel them in. But of course you have to take care. Reel them in too slowly and they'll lose interest. But do it too quickly and you'll lose your grip on them. How quickly or slowly you reel them in takes practice - and depends on the fish.

No, I'm not talking about angling here. What I'm talking about right now; are the unique differences between each sub. It is very foolish to assume every submissive is the same; just as it's equally foolish to assume you know what each sub wants before you've cast out that juicy worm. Patience and probing - that's the key.

But once you've caught them; that's when the real fun begins. It's then that you start the spell. The physical domination is just a small part of it. You've walked into their mind and now it's time to start taking full control of it. And this is the bit I love. What can I say? I adore psychology - and I adore working with psychology.

I like to use a sub's triggers to gain control of him. If I receive a trigger which tells Me he needs chastity - then that's the route I'll go down. I'll talk about how he deserves to be locked away - and how he will never know how long I intend to keep him caged for. Days, weeks, months...perhaps forever. The threat of being in chastity on a permanent basis is a very big turn on for somebody with a chastity fetish. It's the ultimate form of control - Mistress has taken complete control of sub's sexual freedom - the sexual freedom they once took for granted.

Or maybe they want to be cuckolded. Another psychological fetish. No, it's not about seeing the wife get fucked by a big black guy - that is only part of the fetish. It's about sub being completely emasculated. Take away that machismo and what has he got left? Nothing. It's at that point he's completely powerless. It is at that point he has a void - and so he needs to fill that void. How does he fill it? Well that's through several ways. The first is to obey the one who now controls him. He obeys because he realises that without his male pride, he has nothing to identify his gender in an emotional sense. All he can do is sit back and watch his wife enjoy being pleasured by another man. And he does this because it's a window to what he once had, but will never have again. He takes pleasure from being cruelly reminded of what only a real man can have.

Couple that with queening and chastity and you have very powerful control over that sub. You are reminding him of his place. Yes, he may lick his wife, but only to clean up what another man has left. You're showing him that he only serves a purpose - a means to an end - and a disposable means at that. Once he's done his cleaning duty; he's forgotten about. His role is tiny and is over very quickly.

The chastity part reminds him that it's not about him or his pleasure. He quickly learns his new role - to give pleasure - but not ever to expect pleasure himself. You are using psychology to objectify your sub. He's not a person any more. He's a tool; and he's there to do a job for another. But never to serve himself. This is the every essence of Female Supremacy.

It's is these feelings My subs enjoy and remember the most. It's not about how good the orgasm was (don't forget - orgasm isn't guaranteed in My sessions.) neither is it about how painful the torture was. It's about the roller-coaster of emotions they go through at every stage of the session. I've known slaves break down and cry at the end of a session - because the emotions they felt were so powerful. All those different feelings whizzing around and bumping in to each other have to go somewhere - and the dam bursts - the out-pouring begins. This is why many of My subs will agree that a session is a great stress reliever. IF they are allowed to cum; they release a lot more than ejaculate!

I enjoy that fact that I can experience this with them. Seeing that sense of relief on their face at the end of the session is just as enjoyable as the actual sessions itself. Which is why I said I am like a kinky Agony Aunt. My subs are unburdening themselves - through their fantasies, their desires, their memories and their experiences. They are making sense of what they are feeling. And I'm sharing that journey with them. It is that which makes being a Dominatrix extra special!

Sadistic Saturday

Guess what happens on Sadistic Saturdays.....

Just a small taster...I have MUCH more in store for you...

Skype bookings available from 1.30pm. Email your book request to:

mistresscristal@mail.com

Your FIRST and ONLY chance...make it count!

During times I'm actively recruiting slaves; you cannot imagine how much "chaff" there is among the few bits of wheat. Well, the Dommes among you probably can, but for the benefit of those who are none the wiser; I get an awful lot of very poorly written applications. These applications get the attention of the "delete" button, along with My attention for the writer.

When you first contact Me, it is your FIRST and ONLY chance to create a good impression. There are no second chances. If you fail at the first hurdle, you fail full stop; and My attention is removed - permanently.

• DO ensure that your first contact email is respectful. "Hey" is NOT respectful. 
• DO ensure you address Mistress in the correct manner in your first email. "Babe" or "baby" is not correct.
• DO ensure your first email is well-written. Proof-read it for spelling and grammatical errors. Lack of proof reading = lack of attention to detail = lack of attention from Mistress.
• DO keep it short and to the point. I don't want to spend time reading biblical-length emails.
• DON'T make demands. "Dominate me!" "control me!" sentences turn Me OFF!
• DON'T talk about subjects which are beyond My limits - do your research first BEFORE you contact Me.
• DO talk about what you can offer Mistress - but BE HONEST. I want to know your strengths AND your limitations.
• DON'T promise the world if you know you can't deliver. I will find out that you can't deliver what you have promised - and you will be dismissed from My attention - permanently.
• DON'T expect Mistress to propose to you what She wants. The onus is on YOU to do your research first. My expectations are well documented throughout My website.
• DON'T attach any explicit pictures with your first email - they will be deleted without even being opened - as will your email.
• DON'T harass Mistress with multiple requests for My decision - IF I feel you are worthy of My attention; I will advise you in due course.
• DON'T ask questions like; "do I need to make tribute?" This should be plainly obvious.
• DO include details of your kinks as well as your limits - open and honest applications are more appealing.
• DO consider making a tribute when sending your email. This is not obligatory, but it is a good way of creating a good first impression! It shows a genuine willingness to serve. Of course, if your email isn't up to scratch - your tribute can and will be sent back......
• DON'T include skype, twitter or other social media account details in your first email. If I want these details, I will demand them if I feel you have what it takes to serve Me.
• DO let your intelligence shine through in your email. I like slaves who are intelligent, eloquent and articulate. If your knuckles skim the floor, and it shows - I will be ignoring you.
• DON'T beg in your first email. Those who beg in the first contact sicken Me. I ignore them and their pathetic attempts to gain My favour.

Follow these very simple guidelines and you will have a good chance of making the grade. Of course; the final decision rests with Me. But as you can see; there are ways and means to influence the decision I make.

Email Slaves Required.

Mistress currently has 3 vacancies for slaves who wish to serve Me via EMAIL.

You will be expected to carry out weekly email assignments (each assignment lasting approximately 5 days) and provide a written essay about the assignment along with photographic evidence. These photos (subject to your agreement) maybe posted on My tumblr blog as recognition of your servitude.

Each assignment will be bespoke to your particular kinks and fetishes. Your limits of course will be respected. If you fail to please Me in your assignment, you can expect to be punished in the next one. If you go above and beyond to please Me, you may be rewarded in the next one. That is how it works - serving well has it's rewards - provided you earn them of course!

To be considered for Email Servitude, you MUST be aged 21 or over. You must NOT be owned or under the consideration of another Domme. You must understand that serving Me in this manner is not about you. It is about Me and providing weekly entertainment to keep Me happy. Therefore; you will expected to be selfless, compliant, honest and open about what you can DO for Mistress.

Interested parties must have a good command of the English language. Your assignment essays are expected to be well written - and you WILL be penalised for any spelling or grammatical errors!

Do you have what it takes to serve Me in this manner?

Then you should apply in the first instance to:

mistresscristal@mail.com

Purification By Pain - My Church of Sadistic Purification.

Back in Medieval times; criminals and heathens were often tortured for their crimes. This torture; carried out before the ultimate punishment of death; was designed to "purify" the soul ready for the afterlife. By receiving pain; the tortured would be able to make peace with their guilt to become well...pure.

I too am a believer of this; granted perhaps not the same means, but nonetheless, I share the same school of thought that pain is good for the soul - and it is very good in encouraging subs to acknowledge their crimes, realise their guilt and ultimately learn how to be a good, obedient and selfless submissive; rather than a disgusting, selfish and deviant little slug.

This is why I designed Sunday Confessional. It is an opportunity for the wicked to crawl before Me, to confess all, to beg for purification by pain, to suffer and become free from sin. Forget a simple; "I'm sorry Mistress. It won't happen again." Those are only words. ACTIONS speak louder than words. I want to make sure if definitely doesn't happen again - by any means necessary.

Some of My methods are what you would call "ironic." For example; if you have been wanking too much - prepare to wank while it HURTS. If you've been a dirty little pervert, ogling at women while you play with yourself; be prepared to be humiliated and pegged. And if you have been less than respectful; be prepared to suffer every form of torture I have up My sleeve, until respectful behaviour is imprinted on your brain.

These are but a small introduction of the kind of methods I use. In reality; the list is endless. I am sadistic by nature. So whatever disgusting behaviour you've been getting up to; I guarantee a method of torture which will reflect that behaviour. And don't assume you will be purified physically either. Psychological punishments are also very effective - and longer lasting....

My Church of Sadistic Purification is open EVERY Sunday as part of Sunday Confessional. Confession begins at 1.30pm and lasts until 5pm - three and a half hours of delicious torture and entertainment. It pleases Me to see you suffer as you learn the error of your ways. I can think of no better way to spend a Sunday.

And while it's true that of course you will fall to you knees; forget about praying for forgiveness. I may be a Goddess and a Femdom - but no amount of prayer will save you. Purification is the ONLY way to make you behave...

mistresscristal@mail.com

The TRUTH about Serving Me.

The first task is to gain My attention - I say "gain" because it is not given freely. It's given to those whom I feel deserve it. The second and perhaps the hardest task is to KEEP My attention. It can be taken away as quickly as it is given. Make no mistake; if you bore Me, disrespect Me or simply don't have your priorities in the right order; you WILL LOSE MY ATTENTION.

If you think serving Me is about "having a wank" and being allowed to cum; you're in for some heavy disappointment. The truth is that your pleasure and satisfaction isn't even on the agenda. It is given as a reward to those who have pleased Me. And if you're not prepared to EARN your reward then I suggest you move along because My attention is not for you.

For those who are lucky enough to keep My attention; you will find that serving has it's rewards and not in the obvious sense. Your senses will be opened as new kinky experiences await you. You will enjoy being moulded into a subservient little pet; only eager to obey and deliver. Your dark desires will be awakened as being your journey into BDSM paradise and new forms of sexual titillation.

REASONS YOU SHOULDN'T APPLY TO SERVE ME:

1. If you simply seek to get your rocks off to a woman who will pander to your whims; I am not the Mistress for you.
2. If you are used to getting your own way and regularly make demands; I am not the Mistress for you.
3. If you have no idea of how to RESPECT AUTHORITY; I am not the Mistress for you.
4. If your priorities are YOUR priorities; I am not the Mistress for you.
5. If you think Mistress "owes" you anything in return for your servitude; I am not the Mistress for you.
6. If you think Mistress will be at your beck and call whenever the mood takes you, I am not the Mistress for you.
7. If you think you can serve Me on a "whim"; I am not the Mistress for you.
8. If your sentences start with the words "I want", I am not the Mistress for you.
9. If you lack eloquence and a basic command of the English language; I am not the Mistress for you.
10. If you take My attention for granted; I am not the Mistress for you.

mistresscristal@mail.com

Slave Positions Available.

Do you have what it takes to serve Me? Can you go above and beyond in order to please? Do you care not about yourself, but of the needs of Mistress?

Mistress is currently seeking slaves for online servitude via email and webcam.

You should be aware that I am very choosy when it comes to selecting applicants. Few will make the grade. It takes a slave who has a special "something" to gain My interest. Could that somebody be you?

I seek boys who are aged 21 or over and not owned or under consider. You will be able to commit to at least 1 cam session/email assignment per week. You will be prepared to pander to My whims, forgetting your own. You will have an an open mind - eager to learn and explore new kinks and fetishes, as well as broadening the ones you currently relish.

You will be eloquent in your application to ensure you create the correct first impression. Your initial application will be well written; focusing on what you can offer rather than what you seek. You will understand that whilst serving Me has it's rewards; those rewards should not be expected. Nor will they be given freely.

Above all; you will understand that serving Me is about Mistress. You are but a source of entertainment - not a need. I don't need you - but you will need Me - in every portal of your life.

Ready to take the first step into My kinky, sadistic world? Then email your application to:

mistresscristal@mail.com

AVAILABILITY WEEK COMMENCING 2 FEBRUARY

I will be available for Skype webcam bookings this week as follows:

MONDAY 2 FEBRUARY - 2PM UNTIL 5PM.

TUESDAY 3 FEBRUARY - NOT AVAILABLE.

WEDNESDAY 4 FEBRUARY - 2PM UNTIL 5PM.

THURSDAY 5 FEBRUARY - NOT AVAILABLE

FRIDAY 6 FEBRUARY - 2PM UNTIL 5PM.

SATURDAY 7 FEBRUARY - 2PM UNTIL 5PM.

SUNDAY 8 FEBRUARY 2PM UNTIL 5PM.

Sessions are back to the normal rate of £1.30 per minute. Minimum booking length is 10 mins. Sessions include cam to cam and audio. Tribute may ONLY be made via Amazon.co.uk E Gift Card.

To book you should email Me at the address below:

mistresscristal@mail.com

SUNDAY 11 JANUARY - SUNDAY CONFESSIONAL.

Of course you boys know what today is, don't you? You don't? Well let Me enlighten you..,.

Today is the first Sunday Confessional of 2015 - and that means it's going to be a very harsh, strict and sadistic one! You didn't really think I was going to go easy on you, did you? Of course not! I don't go easy - "mercy" isn't in My vocabulary!

I expect ALL naughty, disgusting, filthy, perverted boys to report to Confession at 2pm prompt! You will be naked and kneeling. Your hands will be AWAY from that little flap of skin you dare to call a "cock". Your head will be bowed low and you will confess every single dirty detail of your sins. You will be thorough in your confession and you will be honest. Don't think you can leave out any information - because Mistress WILL find out all. 

Once you have squirmed in shame at My highly humiliating questions about your sins; you will then BEG to be absolved of them. Now don't think for one minute that this means you will simply be forgiven. Oh no - you have to earn that forgiveness. And how do you earn it? You earn it by suffering.

Yes, that's right; you will suffer in any way I decide. I will torture you, I will taunt you, I will deny you, I will humiliate you and I will crawl inside your head and ruin you. But suffer you must for you are here to learn that such behaviour is not acceptable to a lowly slave such as yourself. You will learn that satisfying your own selfish needs is not on the agenda. Your needs simply don't feature. You will be moulded into the meek, subservient, respectful subject you should be. You will learn that pleasing Mistress is the only life you will live. Nothing else is important.

Don't delay - you are only prolonging the inevitable. Submitting and confessing is an itch to be scratched - and I have the scratch to that itch....

Book your place for Sunday Confessional NOW - don't think about it. Just do it - you are incapable of rational thought in any case....I'm the thinker - you're the do-er - doing whatever I think you need to become a loyal, well-behaved, submissive subject.

mistresscristal@mail.com

*Sunday Confessional is conducted via Skype. Bookings at £1 per minute. Minimum booking length 10 minutes. Tribute ALWAYS required and via Amazon UK E Gift Card ONLY. Strictly for those aged 21 or over.