It is a common misconception among the ignorant that Online Domination is not really BDSM and that those who offer it; are not really Dominatrices.
The fact is; Online Domination is just as popular as real-time Domination and in many respects; is often much more intense.
The major difference between real time and online is that there is far more psychology involved. "Setting the scene" in person is far easier than it is when you set the scene at a distance. In addition; you're not physically there to ensure slave obeys; so it goes without saying that it takes a greater amount of control to ensure your slave fulfils every single command you give.
What you have to remember is that Online Dommes do not allow any perceived limitations to become obstacles in their control on their slaves. Rather; they go around them to ensure both Domme and slave receives the best possible experience. This takes a lot of thought on the part of the Domme. She is verbally painting pictures of a BDSM scenario to really allow slave to put his head into the scene and the mindset She expects. It takes a very creative and knowledgeable person to be able to do that; in order to make it as close to the real thing as possible.
And then there's the issue of safety; especially ensuring the safety of slave. In a real-time situation, a Domme can quickly halt any proceedings to ensure slave does not suffer any injury or long-term negative effects of any BDSM practice. That responsibility is much larger when in an online position; because She doesn't have the luxury of being able to do that. Indeed; aftercare after an online session is just as important as it is during a real-time session; more so in many cases. Domme has to rely on slave to ensure he follows Her instructions in order to remain within the realms of safe, sane play. It also means that Domme absolutely has to be fully aware of any potential risks encountered throughout various BDSM practises and have measure in place to ensure slave is not exposed to those risks.
So why does online domination receive such a bad reputation from those who don't really know anything about it?
Indeed; it could be argued that it's not as good as the real thing. Arguably, more control is seized in a real-time scenario. But the fact that it's purely online based does not make it any less tangible. A good online Dominatrix has the ability to make the session seem as though She is really in the room with the slave. She does this not by just sitting there on a webcam and barking orders at Her submissive; but by fully interacting with him and ensuring he plays a very active part in the session. It's all too easy to sit there and say "right slave; this is what I would do if I was there..." Yes; you could do that. But slave is easily going to get bored. It is also commonly known that men are rather more visual then they are imaginative. In terms of porn; men like it to be blunt and to the point; no kissy-kissy romance. They like it dirty and they like it with no holes barred, and they like it in their face. A good Domme knows and demonstrates this.
"Online Domination is not REAL Domination - so why should I have to pay for it?"
Let's put it into a clear perspective here. As I've mentioned above; a good Online Dominatrix will be seriously clued up on safe, sane practices. Whether it be a real-time or online setting; you are still putting your trust in Her 100%. You are also giving up 100% control to Her. When you enjoy an online session with Her; you're not just talking to Her on webcam. You're enjoying years of knowledge and expertise. She is a specialist in the art of BDSM; having spent years learning & researching it. She will often know far more about it than you do; which is why She has the ability to take full control. And She will also be teaching you a few things about not only the BDSM scene, but about yourself along the way. Yes; you could probably go into a chat room and chat to somebody for free about it. But I guarantee; you won't get the same experience and knowledge as you would from actually having a session with a Professional Dominatrix. BDSM is Her career. She's selling a service. And as all good sales-people know; if you're going to sell something; you have to know your product inside and out. If you don't have seller-confidence; how are you ever going to achieve buyer-confidence?
So of course if you're seeking the services of a Professional Online Dominatrix, is perfectly right to expect to pay Her for Her time. She is an expert at what She does. The fact that it's kink shouldn't make a blind bit of difference. Like any other expert; She's offering a service.
In My personal & professional opinion; the bad press which sometimes surrounds Online Domination is brought on by a combination of lack of knowledge both on the part of the submissive and the "Domme" who has not learned Her trade. There are many girls out there who portray themselves as an online "Femdom". You approach them; pay your money and receive absolutely NOTHING to do with the BDSM/Fetish scene. Instead; what you receive is some nasty little brat calling you every name under the sun; while she demands you pay her more money. Of course such an experience is going to leave a bad taste in your mouth and put you off the whole thing.
But keep and open mind. There are many Online Dommes who ARE the genuine article yet don't offer real-time sessions for a variety of different reasons. Those reasons are not limited to them being "fakes". It could be that they are in the same position as Myself - they are in a romantic D/s relationship and therefore are not prepared to take on any real-time slaves unless and until that situation changes. Or perhaps its a safety issue. Or maybe they simply don't have the space to offer real-time. In short; it's down to personal choice - horses for courses. And those choices should be respected; not dismissed out of ignorance.
The truth is; if you've never tried Online Domination before, you truly don't know what you're missing!
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