My Take On Financial Domination

Financial Domination is not an exact science and it is true that there are an awful lot of myths surrounding the fetish. 

While I am proud to be a Financial Mistress; I'd like to make it absolutely clear that what I am not is a bratty Princess. That's not to say there is anything wrong with using that approach. If that is which works for you; then of course you are entitled to adopt that method. But for Me; the whole process of financially dominating a slave I have a different approach on. 

The question I'm often asked is; "why would a slave choose to spend ridiculous amounts of money on a Financial Dominatrix?" The answer to this question is quite simple - because they want to. I do not demand to be paid. I do not bully subs to pay Me. I simply ask and they give; because they have a desire to give to Me. I allow My slaves to enjoy the opportunity to spoil their Mistress in order to prove their devotion. 

However; this is not something which happens overnight. They will only spoil Me when they are ready to spoil Me and this is something which takes time. It is during this time that I will get inside their heads and find what makes them tick. When I have found what their weaknesses; I use them to develop an honest and open relationship with My submissives; which is based on trust and absolute obedience. 

To Me; establishing and maintaining an ongoing rapport with a submissive, is the very foundation of Financial Domination. One cannot simply expect to encounter a sub & demand that he will pay from the off. Why would you consider spending money on somebody you don't know? Instead; I choose to exploit their weaknesses as we get to know each other and decide whether the relationship is or isn't going to work. Submission is either given or it isn't. 

That said; however the early part of the relationship; the INVESTIGATION part doesn't come for free. My slaves approach Me for webcam domination, phone domination or Email domination. They may even approach Me to be dominated via text message. But they still have to pay to enjoy this service. They are not paying to worship Me at this point. They are paying to enjoy My services, skills and knowledge on the subject of BDSM and fetish. 

Over time; as the relationship grows; so does the desire to worship their Mistress. I never force or demand that My slaves buy Me things or send Me money. Yes; I will request certain things, but there is no forcing or bulling in My Financial Domination training. I may set My slaves a target task and invite them to contribute to it. And this allows My slaves to join together and contribute to something big in My life. 

But I never demand. I ask and invite. And as is usually the case; I don't need to even ask. My slaves will OFFER gifts and cash because they are so hooked and turned on by the idea of worshipping Me. They are so devoted and besotted with Me that they want to be part of My life and part of My happiness. To be given the chance to worship Mistress and make Her happy is an honour and a privilege and it makes them feel special to be able to do so. Proving their devotion to Me makes them happy. And it makes Me happy too. What could possibly be wrong with that; when all parties are happy? 

Financial Domination is not all about money. It's about getting to know your slave, and how much they enjoy being submissive. My slaves thoroughly enjoy being submissive to Me and they love it when I use My Domination skills, knowledge and experience to put them in that deliciously submissive place. They like to be in this place and want to stay in it. 

Submission is never enforced in a slave. It is inspired when you have made that connection with your submissive. When you have established that connection and learned to nurture it for BOTH parties; that's when you are mutually experiencing true Financial Domination. 

Financial Domination is not something to be undertaken on a whim, and this is particularly important if you are a sub interested in experiencing Financial Domination. What you must always remember is that it isn't your money which motivates and attracts Me. In fact; if I feel you do not understand the fetish or that you are not suitable to serve Me financially; I will have no qualms about REFUSING your tributes and gifts. 

Sending Me an email with "please rinse me Mistress" or "Mistress; I need you to blackmail me and ruin my life!" is NOT going to attract My attention. I have received countless messages like this over the years and I have ignored every single one. Those who are desperate and beg for attention; rarely have any real use or anything interesting to say or add to My life. 

The correct way to approach is to tell Me what you would like to do to contribute to My lifestyle and enquiring as to how you may go about doing so. If you are a well mannered gentleman who isn't begging and showing how clueless and pathetic you are; you are more likely to get a response. While pathetic slaves are useful in terms of amusement and entertainment; they are NOT useful when it comes to Financial Domination and their methods will not wash with Me. 

To Me; Financial Domination is complex but comes naturally when is done right. It is about building a connection and a relationship; to encourage and inspire a sub to contribute and worship of their own free will. I personally enjoy the connection I have with My subs when I speak with them on webcam. It's fun to find out all about them; to chat with them; to find out about the sort of things they like and to have fun with them. Serving a Dominatrix and Financial Domme should not just be about whips, chains and humiliation. It should also be about fun so that the experience is enjoyable for both parties. And further down the line; as you begin to enjoy My company more and more; if you wish to worship Me financially, then it is your choice to do so. You might want to purchase a gift from My wishlist or send Me a gift voucher. You might even want to tribute via NiteFlirt. But you will only do this once you are ready to do so. I won't be forcing you to do this. You will give freely because I am inside your mind and I have inspired you to want to this. 

Neither will I bankrupt you. Another thing I am definitely NOT is a home-wrecker. I understand that you have a life outside of servitude. You have financial responsibilities and likely a family or partner to support, and I believe in keeping it real. Your vanilla life is just as important; if not more so, and it is for that reason that My slaves only give what they can truly afford. Yes, they may want to give up a trip to the cinema or a night out on the town. They would prefer to spend their money on Mistress; rather than wasting it on frivolities like alcohol. They buy Me a gift but are still responsible for ensuring their household bills are still being paid. It is a consensual financial relationship between Domme and sub. 

Financial Domination when it is done right; can lead to a beautiful, lasting relationship. All you have to do is to learn about Me via My website and watch My clips and decide if you would like to be part of something special and contribute to My lifestyle. If you are ready to take the next step to be inspired to show your devotion; then get in touch and correctly express your desire to worship. It is that simple and it's also a lot of fun! 

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Sad news I'm afraid folks. Vinyl Vera got a puncture and is beyond repair. I guess She encountered a little prick!

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CONDITIONS FOR SERVING ME.

Many boys want to know about the conditions in place for serving Me and the rules are really very simple.

1. You MUST be aged 21 or over.
2. You MUST NOT be owned or under consideration.
3. You MUST be prepared to commit to at least 2 webcam sessions per month or 3 email assignments per month.
4. You MUST be GENUINELY SUBMISSIVE - right from your application I will be able to tell if you are not.
5. You MUST understand that My services are not free. Fee is always expected.
6. You MUST NOT dictate the terms of your servitude. While I will respect your limits; I will not bend My rules to suit you.
7. You MUST understand that serving Me is about Me. Your wants and needs do not even enter into the equation.
8. You MUST understand that orgasm/relief is NOT GUARANTEED. Only I have the power to decide if and when you may cum. I will only decide if I feel you have done enough to earn it.
9. You MUST understand the difference between "fees" and "tributes." Fees are what you pay for a session. Tributes are gifts given freely without expectation and obligation.
10. You MUST have at least a basic knowledge of BDSM. If you don't then you will be expected to read and learn BEFORE you approach. While I will happily train those who a new to the scene; I will not train those who are ignorant to it.
11. You MUST be honest about your likes and dislikes. I am not psychic and I expect you to be forthcoming with the truth.
12. You MUST be prepared to surrender control to Me 100%. If you have any shadow of doubt in your mind; then you should not approach. Submission is either given or it isn't.
13. You MUST NOT assume that you will become My property overnight. It takes a lot of hard-work, dedication, loyalty and servitude to reach that honour. Some will never achieve it. Only the most obedient and dedicated; will.

These rules cannot be clearer and the onus is on you to read and understand them. I do not take ignorance as an excuse. If you haven't done your homework from day one; that tells Me that you are not serious enough about serving and will not last the distance. Remember; I take QUALITY above quantity. And to be taken seriously; your application must reflect that you have the quantities I seek in a slave. 

Why Applying To Serve Is Not Only About Tributes...

It may surprise you to know that serving a Dominatrix is way more than throwing tributes Her way. Now I know that at this point; many boys will have to pick themselves off the floor due to shock, but you're about to receive a very good education in what servitude actually means. And no; it doesn't mean salivating over being spanked while you wank your little maggot. That's not servitude - not by even the slightest stretch of the imagination.

Submission to another is either given or it is isn't. But there are no half measures. Submission is exactly what it sounds like. You submit to the will of another. You give up all power and control and give yourself freely to the control of a Superior. This means your opinions do not matter. Your body becomes the property of the one who owns you. Your thinking is not of yourself but of the one who controls you. In fact every single thing you say or do; is with the Dominant in mind. You become selfless and act only on the commands and directions of somebody else. Every single independent thing about yourself becomes non-existent and is replaced by a dependency on your Dominant. You depend on them to show you the way of how you should speak, act, live and behave. You live your life for them and never for yourself.

So why then are you surprised that your offer of tribute has been refused? Well let's talk about that. Many Dommes will relate to opening up their emails and reading countless messages of "Can I be your slave? If I send tribute, will you own me?" The genuine Dommes among us will ignore those messages. If in fact tribute has been sent in addition to said email; that tribute will be sent back.

But that's how to approach a Domme right? That's how you attract their attention, isn't it? WRONG! You cannot win over a Dominatrix with the promise or act of tribute. Tribute is just the tip of the iceberg. Anybody can send a gift certificate or add funds to a google wallet account. It takes all of five minutes and requires the minimum of effort. And yet you expect for be owned as a result of that tiny effort? Not going to happen.

While it is true that you should expect to pay for the time of a Dominatrix; don't fool yourself into thinking that is all She wants from you. She wants to know what you can DO for her. How are you going to entertain Her? What are you going to do to please Her? Are you going to be obedient and carry out every single one of Her commands without questions? Are you going to completely give yourself over to Her every whim? THAT is what you should be considering when you approach a Dominatrix. Offering tribute in return for ownership means you are already setting conditions and expectations from Her. You are attempting to call the shots and be in control of the relationship. Why would a Dominatrix want to consider owning somebody who does that?

If you are going to submit to the will of another; you should understand that you have no business setting conditions before you start. Mistress will set those conditions IF She wants to speak to you. And you will learn to live by those conditions whether you like it or not. But as far as you're concerned; your servitude is unconditional. You simply do as you're told - that's the bottom line. She commands - and you do.

So for all those who are still unconvinced ask yourself this: Would you approach a prospective employer in the same manner? Would you sit in the interview and say; "if I give you money, will you employ me?" I didn't think so. Applying to serve a Dominatrix is very much like applying for a job. You tell your prospective employer what you can bring to the company in terms of your skills and expertise. You sell yourself to them so that they want to consider you. If you're not qualified for the job; a sizeable cheque included with your job application isn't going to make the slightest difference...