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WEAK FOR ARMPITS

If you have a thing about armpits, then I have a lovely treat for you! My armpits are perfect for worshipping and even better for teasing you. The feel, the smell, the taste, how sweaty they are, how good they will feel against your cock.

Would you like to fuck My armpits? Can you imagine how good that would feel? Perhaps you feel the little stubble of My shaved armpit hair rubbing against your cock. Or the lubricant of My sweat against your ball sack. Oh yes, I know exactly what you like – and I’m going to use it to tease you into a frenzy!

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SEXY FINGERNAIL TEASE

With My long, red talons, I can drive you crazy with desire. You might crave to feel them tickling all the erogenous areas of your body, until writhing with erotic arousal.

You might desire them to scratch your chest and back, to make your cock drool with need.

Or maybe you crave them to torture your cock and balls, until I leave My mark on you. And when I leave My mark; you will wear it with pride - pride in knowing who you really belong to!

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Fascinating Fetish

Fetish is truly like a box of chocolates; because you never know which one you're going to get. And that's why I love fetish - it's interesting and it's exciting. Every single one is different. It could be something common like foot-fetish, or it could be something more bizarre.

Take yesterday's bizarre fetish for example - nose fetish. Now this is something I have encountered once before, but it's always fun to explore. If you are on the squeamish side; I suggest you stop reading because granted, it's not for all.

But this particular client had a thing for the contents of a woman's nose. He particularly liked close up shots of the nostrils, especially if they were "dirty". He loves to see women picking their nose - and feeding him the contents - snot, boogers - the lot. The bigger the booger; the more he enjoys it. Snot candles drive him crazy and when sneezing - well, that sends him over the edge. Remember the days of blowing snot bubbles as a child? Yup; he loves to see women do that.

Granted; this fetish isn't for everyone and it's one of the few "yuck" fetishes I will actually indulge. I'm not a nose picker in general; but I will dig in for cash. And at this time of year, with cold air and dry central heating; I can tell you he was VERY pleased with what I managed to fish out. Gross to some. Pure deliciousness to him.

But it did get Me thinking about some of the other bizarre fetishes I've encountered over the years and I could probably write a book about it. Perhaps I will one day; once I've finally hung up My whip and decided to retire.

A few fetishes which stick in My mind are the "Tow Bar Man" and "Burning Witch".

Now "Tow Bar Man" was a farmer. He also adored mechanophilia which is a fetish of vehicles. His beloved tractor was his favourite and he loved to call up on a Saturday afternoon when he was supposed to be busy in his fields. Instead; he was busy....pleasuring himself with the other love of his life - his tractor - or in particular the tow-bar.

Now I don't need to draw pictures of what he actually did with the tow bar...I think you can probably imagine where the cold metal went. I certainly wouldn't recommend anyone do this with the tow bar of their vehicle. There's no telling of the damage it could inflict if you get over excited. But he would lube himself up, and lower himself down and ride that tow bar like a cow boy. Keeping a straight face during those sessions was hard work. All I could picture was this guy bouncing up and down on his tow bar, in the middle of the field. Still; each to their own. If it makes him happy and he's being safe, who am I to judge?

But "Burning Witch" was a different kettle of fish. His sessions were extremely intense and I'd find Myself pretty drained at the end of it. it.

"Burning Witch" liked to go back to medieval times; when witches were burnt at the stake.

He loved Me to create the whole scenario of him being caught for practising witch-craft, being tried and sentenced before being tied to the stake among the jeers of the assembled crowd. I had to say the same thing every time; before the "sentence" was carried out "Witch; you have been tried and convicted under the will of God for practising witch-craft and are therefore a worshipper of Satan. The sentence passed by this court is that you are to be burned at the stake, where you will writhe in the firey pits of Hell!"

The fire would be lit; and I would describe in great detail, the fire growing as the flames start to build, licking up his entire body as the crowd cheered. He would really get into this; screaming and begging for mercy, until with one almighty scream; he was finished both physically and metaphorically. The final scene of "The Wicker Man" was like an orgy to him. My poor ears suffered a lot during those sessions; so in the end, I took to placing cotton wool in them, for the sake of My ear drums. But it was fun to just journey into the imagination for this particular client. It took preparation before the call - researching witch-burning and even watching a few clips from films featuring witch-burning - until I made the mistake of watching the "witch-burning" scene in Monty Python's Holy Grail. The whole scene played in My head every time he called; and as a Monty Python fan; you can imagine how difficult it was to keep a straight face.

But by far the most hilarious and somewhat difficult client I had has got to be "Mr Minnie Mouse." 

Now this client had all the usual bdsm tastes - strap on, whipping, humiliation; except for one huge difference - he wanted to Mistress to be dressed as Minnie Mouse. Not only did Mistress have to be dressed as Minnie; but she would also have to talk like Minnie. Yeah...try to sound dominant when you're squeaking away like Minnie. Now fortunately; this was another phone call session, which is lucky because I don't actually have a Minnie Mouse costume. But I painted him the picture and after several practise sessions to get Minnie's voice to a tee; I took him through the entire session, complete with "Minnie" attitude. All was going so well until he uttered the words "oh Minnie; your mouse ears look so sexy!" That was it. My entire Ice Queen demeanour was shattered, annihilated. I bit My thumb so hard to stop Myself from laughing as he "finished" the job. Satisfied, relaxed and empty; he thanked Me for the session, commenting on how professional I was in not breaking character and hung up. It took a good 30 minutes to compose Myself for the next call. That one comment had Me laughing so hard; I thought My ribs would snap! 

It's moments like these I really enjoy in My sessions - yes the usual stuff is fun, but sometimes you want to push the envelope a bit further and get your teeth into the bizarre, the more "unorthodox" fetishes. It's also a learning process, because you will often find a fetish you've never heard of before. Don't ever assume you know everything; because you really don't. Every day; new fetishes are being born. People find sexual excitement from things you could consider to be boring or mundane - cleaning the toilet; ironing, even chewing gum. It's these moments which truly make the world of fetish, absolutely fascinating! 

FRESH MEAT REQUIRED....

I am currently accepting applications from boys who have a need to become My fully submissive, obedient and subservient online slut.

You will be aged 21 or over and have a basic understanding of BDSM as well as understand the importance of safe, sane consensual play. You will be able to commit to at least one Skype session or one email assignment per week, in order to commence and progress your training.

You will understand and respect the dynamics of a Domme/sub professional relationship and to that end; will place My desires & wishes at the top of your list of priorities. You will understand that your needs, opinions and views are not important, nor are they relevant to forming a long-term professional relationship with Mistress. You will also have made sure you are thoroughly informed on the services Mistress offers; and what She expects from a lowly submissive like yourself.

If you are aged 25 or under; you will understand the need to provide proof of your age in the form of government issued photo ID. Passport, driving license and national ID card are accepted. You will understand that without this documentation; your application to serve will not be taken further.

In return; you can expect to be trained by a highly skilled and experienced Online Dominatrix, in the art of BDSM, submissive and Fetish Exploration. You can expect your fetishes to be explored deeply and completely, under the guidance of Mistress, as your training progresses to help you to learn more about your submissive nature and your desire to surrender all control to a powerful Dominatrix.  Mistress will open the door to your kinky side; and guide you every step of the way as you take yourself on a physical, emotional and spiritual journey into the world of kink and fetish.

You may be rewarded as you progress; depending upon your level of competence as a slave. Such rewards will be at My discretion and will be given should I feel you are deserving of them. You will of course be punished; should your work fall below the high standards I expect of you. I am also at liberty to dismiss you at any time; should I feel you lack what it takes to become My online submissive.

Your training may lead to long-term servitude and Ownership if, and only if, you prove yourself to be a dedicated, hard-working, thoughtful, loyal and obedient slave. Ownership comes with many perks and is a status many slaves aspire to achieve. However; only the elite submissive will ever be granted this honour, after he has proven himself to be worthy.

Those wishing to apply for online training may do so by clicking the link below and filling out the form. You should include as much detail as possible. One sentence emails are not only bad manners; they are also completely inappropriate and will be ignored. Ensure your application is well written and free from any spelling errors. The effort you put in to apply; demonstrates the effort you will put in to serving - you will be judged on your first approach. You will not get a second chance to create a good first impression.

APPLY TO SERVE

A CANING FROM HEADMISTRESS

Caught misbehaving in class yet again; you're summoned to the Headmistress; study for severe punishment. You have two choices - accept the biting taste of the rattan or be kicked out of the school. But which one will Headmistress choose for you?

EROTIC RECORDING

SISSY MAID TRAINING TASK

If you're going to be My sissy maid; you'd better lean how to do it PROPERLY. There is no room for error. If you don't deliver 100% effort; I will be 100% disappointed. Trust Me; you really don't want to disappoint your Mistress.

In this task; you will learn how I expect you to be dressed, how to prepare your outfit, how to present yourself to Mistress and Her guests and the duties I will expect from you. Go ahead; click the button and begin your vocation!

While Mistress is away....

When I'm not online, you're still working hard to please Me. The devil makes work for idle hands. So it is My intention to ensure your hands are NEVER idle. If they're idle then there's a danger they will be used for activities of which you are not entitled to. And we can't have that, can we? It is your duty to always ensure you are busy, beavering away, to keep your Mistress happy.

Minions are never too tired to serve, or have other things more important than ensuring their Mistress is satisfied. Minions go above and beyond to stay in Mistress; good books. Minions are always prepared to show Mistress why they should continue to receive My attention. Minions know that their number one priority is satisfying the needs and desire of Mistress and nothing else.

You will do this today by following the simple steps as outlined below:

1. Choose an assignment theme from the list as illustrated above.
2. Email the address above to request said assignment.
3. Answer My questions in a timely and honest manner.
4. Follow any instructions I send to you.

Minions will also ensure they abide by the following terms and conditions when completing tasks for Mistress.

• You will ensure said assignment is completed in its entirety by the deadline I set for you.
• You will ensure you send photographic evidence & diary of you completing the assignment.
• You will ensure your diary is well written and free from any spelling or grammatical errors.
• You will ensure you acknowledge receipt of your assignment within 24 hours of receipt.
• You will pay any late fines for assignments not completed by the deadline set.
• You will acknowledge that assignments more than seven days late will lead to your INSTANT DISMISSAL from My training.

I'm sure even you can follow these simple instructions. Are you ready to please Me? You may now begin.

CHECK OUT MY FILTHY CLIPS!

In the last few weeks, I have been very busy uploading new content to My clips channel. Most of these content features Myself. Some feature My owned pet, Chastity Sub. And I guarantee you will thoroughly enjoy the clips I have available.

For your viewing pleasure; I have uploaded the following fetish clips:

JERK OFF INSTRUCTION LEVEL 2 - featuring the mind-blowing male G-Spot orgasm!

HUMILIATING TASK FOR ATTACHED SISSIES - for sissies who like a bit of danger.

DRESS UP & PREPARE SISSY - a guide to dressing like a slut for Mistress. 

SPITTING FETISH - watch Me play with My spit over My full red lips.

INSTRUCTED ASS WORSHIP - I'll tell you exactly where I want you to kiss.

LIPSTICK FETISH - applying My red lipstick

FACE SITTING FOR MY PLEASURE - Your face makes the perfect seat!

TOPLESS FETISH WANK 2 - where you can watch Me oil up My huge 38 DD boobs!

THIGH BOOT WORSHIP - where you must lick EVERY inch of My boots.

MORNING GOLDEN RAIN - an up close & personal view of My first pee of the day!

This is but a small selection of the many kinky clips I have available. But I'm sure your dick is already twitching to attention. Now's the chance to give in to the demands of your cock, and take a look at this video filth. Click on the link below to go straight to My clips channel!

SEE MY FETISH CLIPS.

As funny as Shit!

Ladies and germs; meet Slave Shit. Shit is a boy who serves Me on Skype. He thoroughly enjoys public humiliation, which is why I took the liberty of taking all of these very amusing screenshots. I felt Shit should be shared with the world in all his pathetic and ridiculous glory.

The word on Shit's head is supposed to be the word "TWAT", but unfortunately, Shit needs to go back to school and learn how to write properly. Nevertheless; I made sure Shit wrote other rude words on himself, including "CUNT" and the name I have chosen for him...

Shit likes to experience pain and anal abuse, so today I had him whip that nasty flap of skin he calls a "cock", as well as attach pegs to his pathetic balls. The aim of the game was for him to use a leather belt to whip off all the begs; but sadly Shit lived up to his name and was well... shit at it. Instead; I found a far more amusing way for him to entertain Me. Shit was made to lick himself clean....

Of course the act of licking himself clean meant that Shit got all dirty again when his nasty little "cock" did a love piss. So to further humiliate Shit; I had him lick up his mess. Here he is with a tongue full of cum.

Shit did actually wish for Me to share these highly embarrassing pictures with My readers. Perhaps in future, Shit will be careful what he wishes for! 

Sunday Services with the Sister of No Mercy.

Lots of fun was had in today's kink fest. In case you missed it; I dressed up in My kinky Nurse uniform as you can see above. It's amazing how slipping into a uniform brings out the sadistic Bitch in Me. Well I say brings it out. I'm a Sadistic Bitch pretty much all of the time; but today I was perhaps more sadistic that usual.

This afternoon, I have been performing thorough rectal examinations and prostate milking, ball resilience with the aid of some pretty harsh genital torture, and multiple sperm sample collection via jerk off instruction. Of course, said collections haven't been retained by Myself. My boys have dutifully been swallowing the lot, as is expected. Well except for the dirty cum whore I spoke to this afternoon, who likes to swallow the cum of complete strangers. He normally asks male escorts to save him their used condoms. But I decided he needed a constant supply of spunk. Tonight; he's off to his local dogging site to do a "collection." That will keep him in spunk supply for the rest of the week.

Tomorrow, the Sister of No Mercy will be taking confessional from 12.30pm. All sinners are welcome. Others will be tolerated. You will be crawling into My Church to confess your filthy deeds of the week. You'll be squirming in shame as I ask you various humiliating questions about your misdeeds. I may even instruct you give a demonstration of your dirty, deviant behaviour.

Repentance by punishment will follow after you have squirmed to My satisfaction. Expect the punishment to fit the crime. Wanton wankers will have their cocks tortured within an inch of it's life. Sissy sluts can expect to be thoroughly drilled and used. Perverts can expect to be fully degraded and humiliated as they spontaneously burst into flames of shame. My sadistic and creative imagination will be going into over-drive. Scared? You should be.

So get those bookings in, sluts! Sundays are normally very popular among the dirty bitches out there. Send your booking in NOW to avoid disappointment

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Weekend Wanking.

I'm sure you boys will be very pleased to know that I will be live and available on webcam ALL weekend this weekend, from 12.30pm until 5pm, DAILY!

You will be able to interact with Me on both AdultWork & NiteFlirt as well as enjoy Skype Shows with Me to serve and explore your darkest desires and fetishes.

I will be putting you through your paces to ensure you serve Me to the best of your ability. Punishments WILL ensue for those who fail to please Me. You MAY be given relief at the end of your session; provided I am happy with how you have performed for My amusement. Be aware that eating your mess after relief is NOT optional!

I will be offering a variety of kinky shows designed to get you salivating for more and I dressing up in My kinkiest outfits. I may even break out the Nurse Uniform on Saturday, for some kinky medical play. Those who are interested in Medical Play can expect to receive a thorough examination inside and out, as well as suffering the humiliation of being put into a variety of exposing positions and made to carry out degrading acts to ensure you receive a thorough health check.

Sunday will see Me opening up Confessional for sinners who need to be absolved of their dirty, deviant behaviour. I will listen and watch you squirm while you spare no detail about your dirty, immoral deeds before accepting a suitable punishment in order to repent. The punishment will be of My choosing and will always reflect your crimes. So whatever your misdeeds; I'll leave the punishment up to your imagination...

And Monday will be dedicated to all things concerning masturbation. Don't kid yourself, however that this will allow you to wank your little worm at your leisure. I expect to be entertained, remember and I will do that by finding humiliating and/or painful ways for you to masturbate. Masturbation games will also be on the menu, as will jerk off instruction for boys who want to get the most from their wank. Of course whether or not you get to cum depends on a variety of factors; if I feel you deserve it and if I feel you should remain in your own frustrated juices. The decision of course will always be Mine.

To book a Skype session for any of these days; you should contact Me via the link below. Remember to be as detailed as possible when talking about your kinks and interests. I neither need or want single sentence emails. The more detail you include; the greater the chance of My replying.

CONTACT MISTRESS CRISTAL 

Chastity Sub's Humiliating Shopping Trip.

Of course it's no secret that I love to humiliate Chastity Sub as much as possible. So last week, I felt it was high time he endured some public humiliation. His task was to visit his local sex shop, and ask the assistant where he could find some sissy porn.

The very fact that he had to ask this highly embarrassing question was enough. But I also made him wear his slave collar. Here's how he got on...

Mistress Cristal. Todays task was very embarrassing. When i was walking to the shop i was very conscious of feeling the collar. I had my jacket buttoned right up to my neck to conceal it but felt like everyone i passed noticed it making me bright red. I was extremely nervous and even more nervous when i went through the door. It took building up courage to go to the assistant and i must have been letting off a lot of heat from how red my face was. My voice must have sounded very low and nervous when i asked the assistant if he had any sissy porn and i was squirming with nerves and embarrassment. I felt he could see my collar as i spoke to him. There was another man in the shop and i felt more embarrassed thinking he found it very amusing. I was bright red as he showed me the dvds that were in and i chose these 3 from what they had. I hope these are to Your satisfaction. I felt even more embarrassed as i imagined that he was thinking of me watching them and even more embarrassed walking out of the shop and back to the car. I was imagining everyone i passed could see the dvds even though they were well hidden. I hope this report and the dvds are to Your satisfaction Mistress.

Of course he's yet to find out what I intend to make him do with said material. Is he worried? He should be! 

The Bitch Is Coming Back!

After taking some much-needed time out to deal with some rather pressing personal issues; I am pleased to inform you that I will indeed be back on cam this coming Thursday from 12.30pm. This means that you will not only be able to serve Me via AdultWork, but also via pre-booked Skype session.

Whether you are an experienced or novice submissive; provided you have read ALL of My website and are aged 21 or over; you will be welcome to approach for a session. Sessions will be available 12.30pm until 4.30pm Thursday, Friday, Sunday & Monday. Because while My personal issues don't need urgent attention, but still need attention, I will be offering reduced hours until further notice. You should keep checking back on My website for regular updates.

My cam session sale continues until the end of January, which means you can take advantage of My £1 per min rate. From 1st Feb, the rate will go back to normal at £1.20 per min, so hurry if you don't want to miss out on this saving!

Remember; I am happy to explore most fetishes as long as they are a) legal b) not dangerous and c) don't have the "yuck" factor. Limits are always respected and you will always respect Mine. Cam sessions with Me include cam to cam and audio. Special requests will be considered as long as I have 24 hours notice. 

Sessions are booked & paid for in advance with a minimum booking length of 10 minutes. Payment is via Amazon.co.uk Gift Card or Delivery Code voucher ONLY. I do not take Paypal - so there is no point in asking for this payment method.

The session is confirmed once I have received your session fee. It is strongly advised that you book early to avoid disappointment. My cam days often fill up very quickly! 

Want to book? The you may contact Me via the link below:

CONTACT MISTRESS CRISTAL 

CHRISTMAS AVAILABILITY

My availability for webcam over the Christmas period is likely to be sporadic. But where I am unable to cam, I will indeed be available for instant messenger and one way cam. The times outlined below are subject to change, depending on which days I'm either out partying or entertaining visitors. Any changes will be posted on My twitter timeline. You should follow Me and turn on My notifications in order to stay tuned for updates:

https://twitter.com/MistressCristal

CHRISTMAS AVAILABILITY

THURSDAY 22 DECEMBER - 12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

FRIDAY 23 DECEMBER - 12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

SATURDAY 24 DECEMBER - NOT AVAILABLE

SUNDAY 25 DECEMBER - NOT AVAILABLE

MONDAY 26 DECEMBER - NOT AVAILABLE

TUESDAY 27 DECEMBER - 12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

WEDNESDAY 28 DECEMBER - 12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

THURSDAY 29 DECEMBER -.12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

FRIDAY 30 DECEMBER - 12.30PM UNTIL 5PM.

SATURDAY 31 DECEMBER - NOT AVAILABLE

SUNDAY 1 JANUARY - NOT AVAILABLE

NORMAL CAMMING DAYS AND HOURS WILL RESULT FROM MONDAY 2 JANUARY 

Wishing all My fellow Dommes, pets and kink monsters a very Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year!

xxxx

Chastity Sub Fucks His Figgy Pudding.

"It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas!..."

And that's why Chastity Sub was permitted the first of his Festive fucks!

In this weekend's task, he was given instructions to fuck the Christmas pudding. That's right dear readers - he doesn't get to fuck anything in the human sense - unless it's a bull with a nice big dick. Instead; he has to fuck inanimate objects - the Christmas pudding being object of his desires.

And I even allowed him to remove his cage for this task. How generous of Me! Well not that generous. He's still not allowed to cum until 31 December.

Now fucking the Christmas pudding is one thing, but you know Me. I like to see My pet squirm in shame as much as possible. And so I put his daily 5 hour teasing sessions to good use. He's dutifully collected all his pre-cum from these teasing sessions and was instructed to pour it over the pudding AFTER he had fucked it.

Does it look appetising? Absolutely not! And that's exactly why I made him eat the lot once he'd finished his "prepping". So we have a the finished product of Christmas Pudding Au Jus - which Chastity Sub happily tucked into...

I'm pretty sure that taste will be lingering for a while! 

Chastity Sentence for Panty Boy

This is to certify that:

Panty Boy

Will remain in chastity until:

15 February 2017

By order of the public vote.

Panty Boy will see out the ENTIRETY of his sentence. Days can and will be added for poor behaviour. Panty Boy is prohibited from engaging in any sexual behaviour until the sentence is completed. 

COMING SOON - SLUT FOR USE!

My owned pet, Chastity Sub LOVES to be degraded and humiliated. So much so that he will soon be available for YOUR pleasure. He will appear on webcam via Skype conference booking and do exactly as you tell him. He is always willing to please and obey and you will find that he will be the perfect little chastised slut for you to enjoy.

This is a brand new service which is coming soon - allowing Chastity Sub to be pimped out online to you lucky boys for My enjoyment. I will be present at each session to ensure he behaves himself. And if he doesn't please you; I guarantee he will be punished accordingly!

Want to know more? Visit the link below!

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Locked up for Christmas!

By public vote; chastity sub is now back in his cage and will remain locked up for the rest of the year. No, his little willy won't be seeing Christmas. But it will see in the New Year...unless I change My mind of course.

The people of twitter voted that he must remain locked for a period of 42 days. Couple that with 5 hours of tease and denial on a DAILY basis; this is going to make for one extremely frustrated boy. Oh, how I wish I was a fly on the wall at his house!

Dommes: Do your subs a favour - TALK TO THEM!

Yesterday; I took a very interesting call from a sub who had dabbled in real-time Domination in the past; but was having a real struggle finding the right Domme for him.

This particular sub is very introvert and was having a hard time in the scene. He'd served several Dommes before but had found that they had in the past made assumptions about his particular tastes. This led to various experiences being less than pleasant for him and has in turn; left him very disillusioned about the scene.

One such example was when he explained to a Domme he enjoyed spitting. And so this Domme indulged him - but what she did was spit in his mouth. He didn't enjoy that and in fact found himself in the bathroom after the session, emptying his guts of not only the Domme's spit but everything he'd had for lunch. Said Domme was less than impressed that he'd "had the nerve to throw up in her bathroom."

Was the sub to blame? Absolutely not! It was down to the Domme to learn the boundaries when it came to this particular fetish. He felt fearful of saying "but I don't like to have my mouth spat in" because he was concerned the Domme in question would not want to see him. So instead; he put his trust in her that she would dig deeper and work out that spitting in his mouth was a no-go area.

Second came a session where he'd experienced electrics. And this particular Domme had used electrics in the chest area. While she had indeed asked him if he had any heart problems; he blindly went ahead with the session. It was only afterwards that he learned how dangerous it is to use electrics anywhere near the heart - heart problems or not. Did he tell said Domme about her error? No - he didn't want to offend her.

This has left him in quite a pickle. He  now is interested in seeing a Domme who specialises in mummification, sensory deprivation and dollification. On her questionnaire, she asks; "do you suffer from claustrophobia?" For sub, short answer is "yes" long answer is "yes but only a little." Yet he's concerned again - if he tells said Domme he does suffer from mild claustrophobia, he worries that she won't want to see him. But then if he lies and says he doesn't; then he risks putting them BOTH in a difficult situation.

Needless to say; both of these previous experiences have given his confidence a severe knock-back and now left him fearful of where to take his fetish further. He's still learning about his fetishes. And this is true for many subs who haven't had that much experiences. While they might have an idea of what turns them on; it is highly likely there will be things they've never even thought about which appeal to them. And it's down to a Domme to work that out.

The lesson here is that all the responsibility doesn't fall to the sub. Dommes have to be held to account for responsibility as well. You should NEVER assume what a sub wants. And even if you have discussed his fetishes with him; you should never assume on how far the sub is comfortable in going. And you should NEVER practice unsafe methods. SAFE, SANE CONSENSUAL PLAY - EVERY TIME. To the Domme who did use electrics near sub's heart - you should be ashamed of yourself for failing in basic safety methods.

BDSM and Fetish is not an exact science. Like no two Dommes are the same. neither are no two subs the same. And to that end; Dommes need to be both more approachable and more flexible in their interaction with new subs. Remember; these clients are putting their trust in you - 100%. It is YOUR responsibility to see that they don't come to any harm, be it physically or psychologically and that they get something positive from the session. A bad session will definitely leave more than bad taste in the mouth of a submissive. It may be a business to you, but it should still be fun for both parties. If it's not fun, it's not going to be good.

It also reflects on you as a Domme. Have you dug deep to work out what your sub wants? Have you discussed comfort zones? Have you gotten to know your subs in a preliminary informal chat? Do you think of your sub or do you think of how much money said sub is going to pay you? If it's the latter; then you're in the wrong business.

Of course the multitude of "insta dommes" creeping on to the scene doesn't help. Sadly; many subs fall victim to these scam artists. They pay their money in the hope they will get a positive experience, only to be let down when they realise this "Domme" knows nothing about the scene and knows even less about said sub. Is it any wonder Financial Domination gets such a bad rap when few really know what it entails?

I don't take any sub at face value. It is important to remember that although in laymen's terms; a session with a Domme is a business transaction, it does indeed go much further. You are starting a professional relationship. And like any relationship, communication and trust is absolutely paramount. How can you engage in any form of relationship if you don't communicate with each other? It's not as simple as getting a sub to tell you what he's into and then taking his money. You have to take off your Domme hat momentarily and put yourself in the shoes of the sub. It's called empathy. Any Domme who refuses to open her mind and think about things from her sub's point of view is doing the scene a great disservice.

But from a sub's point of view; while you should be able to have clear communication with a Domme, in order to establish that D/s relationship, that doesn't mean you have the right to waste her time. Keep communication non-hardcore. DON'T ask for "examples" or "free tasters." Free-loading is not going to convince a Domme that you are the right sub for her. And I believe that is another problem within the scene. It is also the main reason why Dommes feel less inclined to keep the lines of communication open. Time-wasters have taken the piss and Dommes aren't prepared to fall victim to it again.

My subs don't instantly get to jump into a session. Indeed; I expect them to prove themselves first. This is not just to work out if they're going to waste My time or not, but also to see their interaction with Me and indeed My other subs. I find I learn an awful lot more from just observing them. Remember; some subs will actually be quite nervous about saying what they really want, for fear of being judged. They may also be like the sub I spoke to yesterday - very, very shy. They are only human beings at the end of the day. And that's why I observe and learn about them. When both sides have grown comfortable; then it's time to start having a session, but only once I've made sure I know what sub is and isn't comfortable with. 

My advice to any new sub or indeed Domme coming on the scene is this. Learn. Learn about yourself, your sub, your scene, and your practises. Don't instantly wake up and say; "right I'm going to be a Domme!", build a website and expect the subs to come flocking. Work out what you expect from your sub and what your sub can expect from you. BE HUMAN! It's a two-way street. If you're only prepared to go one way - then you're doomed to fail and in turn, you will fail every single sub who finally plucks up the courage to approach you.