Saturday, 9 May 2015

What happens during a JOI session?

Many of My slaves like to take part in a Jerk Off Instruction session, because they are hopeful that Mistress will be kind enough to let them cum. But of course you should never take your relief for granted. Only once you have pleased Me; will I consider your needs. Whatever the theme of the session; pleasing Me always comes first.

My Jerk Off Instruction/Guided Masturbation sessions are on three levels - each level explored in ascending order, and the intensity of pleasure increasing with each level. Wanking is so much more than simply pumping your fist. And My JOI sessions are geared towards teaching you how to be more creative when you jerk off - and ultimately experience an all-over body orgasm...provided I permit you to have an orgasm, of course.


All newbies to JOI/Guided Masturbation start at level 1. This is the very basic of guided masturbation, and you won't require anything other than plenty of lube. You will be instructed how to tease your cock using your hands and fingers as well as how to use BOTH HANDS to masturbate. You will learn how to use your imagination in tandem with your hands - as you tease yourself further and further towards euphoria. Pre-cum tasting is NOT optional. The moment your cock starts to leak; you'll be cleaning it up. And as you start to climb towards the edge; be prepared to BEG hard for your release...I will only allow it if I hear sheer desperation in your voice.


It may or may not surprise you to know that women aren't the only ones with a g-spot. Men have a g-spot too and it can be reached in a variety of different ways. You will learn exactly how to find yours both internally and externally. You should be prepared to engage in some light anal play for this level, in order to stimulate the male g-spot effectively. Lube is essential! As you stroke your cock and massage your "magic button", you'll feel intense pleasure creep throughout your body - starting from your toes and working its way slowly up your legs into your crotch. This will make for a very intense orgasm - one which you will eager to experience over and over again. Will you be eating your cum afterwards? Of course!


Toys are a must for this level - and in particular vibrating toys. You will need at least a powerful bullet vibrator for external play and a prostate massager (vibrating preferred) for internal play. Lube is essential. Level 3 will take your solo-play to new heights. Not only will you be drooling continuously throughout the session, but the orgasm you experience will be the DADDY of all orgasms. The old masturbation habits will be a thing of the past once you have experienced level 3...and I guarantee you will be addicted....but will I let you experience that ULTIMATE orgasm? Provided you beg Me enough, I'll consider it....

Friday, 8 May 2015

Fetish Friday.

Friday's in My world are all about Fetish and Fetish exploration. If you're a keen fetishist; then today is for you. This is your opportunity to come and explore your kinky fetish with Mistress. Don't worry about shocking Me. I am well practised in the more "obscure" fetishes, and provided it is within My limits; I will be happy to explore it with you.

During a Fetish Friday booking, we will discuss your fetish in detail. We will talk about how you discovered the fetish and how it manifests itself in your life. We will then explore the fetish in detail, both visually and psychologically until you become one with your particular fetish. A veritable feast for those who seldom get the opportunity to explore!

For those with the more popular fetishes; here's what is on offer today:

Latex Fetish
Foot Fetish
Boot Fetish 
Heel Fetish
Financial Fetish
Humiliation Fetish
Panty Fetish (bring panties)
Poppers Fetish
Lipstick Fetish
Sploshing Fetish
Sissy Fetish
Nylon Fetish (bring nylons)
Gaining Fetish (bring food!)
Giantess Fetish
Chastity Fetish
Cuckold Fetish
Pain Fetish
Leather Fetish
Feminisation Fetish
Cum Eating Fetish
Dogging Fetish
Water Fetish
Spitting Fetish

Have a fetish which isn't listed here? Email to enquire.

Skype bookings will be available today. Tribute is always required and is payable by Amazon UK online gift card ONLY.

To book a cam session; you may email Me at:

Thursday, 7 May 2015

So where should a newbie Domme start?

Following on from My recent blog entry about the plague of "insta-dommes" who are spoiling the scene at the moment; this morning I received an email from a newbie Domme (note the difference) in response to My recent blog entry:

"I appreciate what you've written.  At the same time, I think it's misleading to just say "do your research."  It's not like I can walk into my local library and ask them to point me to the Financial Domination/BDSM section.  I've been researching for several months on my own.  I still feel that I am not prepared to delve into online BDSM.  I've read Kindle books dommes have wrote; I've read fetish, domme & sub blogs; I've bought some dommes' videos to see what a sub would expect; etc.  I'm concerned that if I were to try to get into this fetish ight now I would, as you have said above, be easy prey or worse.  As much concern as legit dommes have about insta-dommes, there aren't very many resources a person can turn to for advice or help.  When women ask a domme for assistance, they always get torn apart on social media for being a fake.  I've seen enough of this to know that I cannot contact a domme for help.  It seems to me that anyone who wants to get into this fetish is in a lose-lose situation.  You either jump in unprepared and run a high risk of being taken advantage of or you ask for help and get called every derogatory name in the book.  I'm going to keep looking for helpful resources and reading on my own.  I hope some day I will feel like I have enough knowledge to explore this fetish."

Now she does actually make a very valid point. And for newbie Dommes who are prepared to put in the effort and learn about the scene; it is often difficult to know where to start. The fact is; we all have to start somewhere and learning about something of this nature is a very daunting task. It is also true that even some Genuine Dommes will cast the newbies aside because they have made assumptions. So while the obvious and blatant "insta-dommes" are bad for the scene; so are the Dommes who forget that they too once had to learn.

Myself; if asked I will happily help a newbie. I'm certainly not going to do the work for her. But I will help to point her in the right direction. And this is what this blog entry is about - where to start. This will form part of a series of blog entries to help those who are PREPARED to put the effort in to learn all about the scene. I applaud the writer of the above email. She has reached out and been completely honest. I can say with all certainty that she is NOT an "insta-domme" but somebody starting out. At at one point in time; we were all in her position.

So where does a newbie start? Well let's keep in mind here that Financial Domination is a FETISH as part of the BDSM scene. It is a common misconception among instas that to practice Financial Domination means you are a different type of Domme. Wrong. You are a still a Domme - who has to learn all about what being a Domme means BEFORE you learn about Financial Fetish - that is where to start.

I should also point out that when you become a Domme; you NEVER stop learning. Ever. Even after 13 years in the scene, I am still learning.  Don't ever make the mistake of assuming that you know all there is to know - believe Me; you don't.

Being a Domme is a hell of a lot more than donning latex, grabbing a whip and having a "strict bitch" attitude. Anybody who gives you that little piece of "advice" is not doing you any favours and clearly don't know what they are talking about. Being a Domme or rather making the journey into Femdom is a complete metamorphosis. Yes, you are still in control but you still have to let an element of your personality come through. And there is a very fine line between being Dominant and being a bully. Nobody likes bullies. Bullies are weak - and over-compensate for their weakness. Dommes are not. Dommes are powerful and always in control.

Bullies spit out nasty insults and verbal abuse; whether it's wanted or not. Dommes use verbal abuse as a means of control - provided it is what their slave wants. Calling a slave "a stupid fucking weak cunt" when he's NOT into verbal abuse isn't going to instil any respect from him. He's just going to run a mile because he thinks you're just a nasty ass bitch.

Perhaps the first bit of good advice I can give a newbie is NEVER ASSUME. It is the biggest mistake a Domme can make to assume she knows everything about her sub. Don't ever assume you know exactly what he wants - more often that not; he will surprise you - or he'll walk away because he can see you don't have a clue. Every sub is different. They are a blank canvass. Your job is to work out what they want by LISTENING to them - another important piece of advice - LISTEN.

Before you start playing around with fetishes; it is very important to learn about the basics of Domination; not just from your perspective, but from the perspective of your submissive. EMPATHY plays a major part in the scene. Yes, you still have to mentally put yourself in the shoes of your slave and order to learn more about your slave. That's how trust is built. And TRUST is another important part of being a Domme. You have to be able to mutually trust each other for your working/personal relationship to flourish. Without trust; you have nothing.

So here's how to start really learning about the scene in order to become a brilliant Domme - and it's a lot more than you think!

A good place to start is The Frugal Domme. This site has a wealth of information about the BDSM scene, techniques, etiquette and many of the terms you will be using as a Domme. This really is one of the best places to start when you are new to the scene.

Another one is BDSM 101 - and is where ALL newbies should start. Lots and lots of information about BDSM and how to be a Domme - as well as debunking many of the myths surrounding the BDSM scene. It is a very good example of a website offering good, practical advice.

Fetlife is also a good place to visit if you are still learning. Another load of information for the newbies and even the more experienced. Granted; it's not as good as it used to be - and yes there are time-wasters on there. Bit it's good in terms of BDSM resources.

But it's not just online where you need to to the research. There are some very good books out there as well - and you should consider investing in them:

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge - Tristan Taormino.- this is available from $10.98 for paperback on Amazon. Some consider this to be the BDSM bible - with it's wonderful essays of how-to tutorials and essays about power, desire, & pleasure. Definitely a worthwhile investment.

The New Topping Book - Dossie Easton is another book available on Amazon in both Kindle and Paperback. Very good for newbies as well and is packed with information about on-line domination, the lifestyle, and safety - SAFE, SANE, CONSENSUAL PLAY - You MUST learn about this before you even start offering any kind of session.

And finally for the newbie; I also recommend The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl's Guide to Female Dominance - Mistress Lorelei - I wouldn't use this as a bible as such when it comes to BDSM, but it does talk about technique as well providing an excellent introduction into the world of Female Dominance - available on Amazon for around $14 in kindle or paperback.

So there you have it - and THIS is where you should begin, if you seriously want to enter the scene and become successful at it. Put in the effort, take the time to learn and not only can you turn it into a career, but you can also reap the respect of many for doing the leg-work first!

Good luck!

Wednesday, 6 May 2015

"Why do you only do online sessions Mistress?"

I'm often asked why I'm online based only, and this is a very good question. I have touched on this point in the past and to remind those who are still asking; I choose to be online based only because I have a personal slave as part of a relationship.

I refer to personal slave as "PS" - I don't give out any details about him, nor do I post any pictures or videos of him. This is simply because he likes his privacy. And I respect that. He doesn't want pictures of himself blasted into cyber-space, so I'm not about to betray his trust in Me simply to satisfy the curiosity of others. But you will see Me blogging about him now and then. That is about all you'll get. Nothing more. What is private; remains private.

I met PS a few years back in a BDSM chat room. We got chatting, and we instantly "clicked". It was like we'd found the other piece of each other which is missing. Our chats then developed into phone calls, and finally a meeting. Was I nervous about meeting him? A little. Was he nervous about meeting Me? Terrified! He'd seen Me in action and knew that I don't mince My words!

But as it was; we got on well as vanilla friends and gradually over time; we got to know each other and love blossomed. We didn't just jump straight into play, as some might assume. Instead; we learned about each other and established a solid foundation of trust. Only when the time was right for both of us; did we begin our D/s relationship.

Now that really opened doors for us! I quickly found that PS is VERY open-minded. He loves it all - enforced fem, bondage, pegging, sadism, humiliation and above all he ADORES Female Supremacy. It was serious thunderbolt city as we continued to experiment with our kinks - and before long; "checkmate" - Queen takes slave.

A now we are like any other happy couple you see. Yes, it's a full loving relationship. On the outside; we're just a normal couple - doing what couples do.We go out to dinner sometimes, we go to the pub, we go shopping.  He goes to work while I keep My online slaves in check. When he comes home, he takes care of Me... in the way I'm accustomed to - complete worship. On his days off; we play together. Today he was overdue for a pegging - it's been a few weeks. So that's what he got...except he didn't get to cum. I left him right on the edge before caging him...

Yes sometimes we argue. But during our arguments; I don't suddenly take out My whip and let him have it. That's not the way forward. You NEVER whip somebody in anger. Instead; we argue like any normal couple argues. It's when we "make up" after the argument that I "punish" him - let's just say he loves the make up bit as much as I do. But we are a couple and a committed couple at that.

The fact is; it's a relationship. And when it comes to relationships I believe in loyalty; hence I choose not to do real-time. Yes; I might dabble in the odd double-domme session in the future - but only after discussing it with PS and provided he is in full agreement. But one to one sessions with other slaves are out of the question. PS provides Me with all I need in a real-time sense and we have impeccable trust between us. We are emotionally there for each other, and neither one of us has space for an extra person - we don't want that.  It's our choice..Mine and his. And as far as I'm concerned; that's all there is to it.

Monday, 4 May 2015

There is a lot more to Domination than whips and chains....

Controlling a submissive is not always about whips and chains. It is a very common misconception that serving a Dominatrix involves physical suffering and pain. On the contrary. In actual fact; domination is 90% psychological and 10 % physical.

My subs enjoy the fact that each session has a lasting effect and it has nothing to do with pain and marking. Many of My slaves prefer not to have marks, for obvious reasons. Sessions are a well kept secret between Domme and sub; which is why trust is a very important issue in this field. When you are serving a Dominatrix; you are putting your complete trust in Her and the fact that you do have a life outside of your kinks.

I digress. The lasting effect My subs enjoy is the way I make them feel. Whilst they fear Me and My unpredictable nature; they also feel safe with Me. They feel a sense of freedom in being able to express their kinky side without fear of their privacy being breached. I suppose in a sense I am like a kinky "Agony Aunt", except I've no interest in hearing about how their wife fucked the babysitter and now she's pregnant (unless it's a cuckold session of course!). I'm more interested in what makes them tick.

More often that not; they don't necessarily have to tell Me what makes them tick. With the very basic amount of information; I can start working My way into their psyche and start paying attention to "triggers". It is these triggers which alert Me to what they crave and need. The more triggers I pick upon, the more layers I peel away until I finally reach their kinky core - and it's then that I've entered their mind - in every sense.

It's kind of hard to explain what the triggers are. It could be a reference to something, or even a sound they make. It could even be an almost imperceptible flash in their eyes. But whatever it is; the moment I see it, that's when I know I've got them. It's like fishing in a way. You cast out your line with a nice juicy worm. The fish sees the worm and are instantly drawn to it. And then they take a bite - that's the moment you reel them in. But of course you have to take care. Reel them in too slowly and they'll lose interest. But do it too quickly and you'll lose your grip on them. How quickly or slowly you reel them in takes practice - and depends on the fish.

No, I'm not talking about angling here. What I'm talking about right now; are the unique differences between each sub. It is very foolish to assume every submissive is the same; just as it's equally foolish to assume you know what each sub wants before you've cast out that juicy worm. Patience and probing - that's the key.

But once you've caught them; that's when the real fun begins. It's then that you start the spell. The physical domination is just a small part of it. You've walked into their mind and now it's time to start taking full control of it. And this is the bit I love. What can I say? I adore psychology - and I adore working with psychology.

I like to use a sub's triggers to gain control of him. If I receive a trigger which tells Me he needs chastity - then that's the route I'll go down. I'll talk about how he deserves to be locked away - and how he will never know how long I intend to keep him caged for. Days, weeks, months...perhaps forever. The threat of being in chastity on a permanent basis is a very big turn on for somebody with a chastity fetish. It's the ultimate form of control - Mistress has taken complete control of sub's sexual freedom - the sexual freedom they once took for granted.

Or maybe they want to be cuckolded. Another psychological fetish. No, it's not about seeing the wife get fucked by a big black guy - that is only part of the fetish. It's about sub being completely emasculated. Take away that machismo and what has he got left? Nothing. It's at that point he's completely powerless. It is at that point he has a void - and so he needs to fill that void. How does he fill it? Well that's through several ways. The first is to obey the one who now controls him. He obeys because he realises that without his male pride, he has nothing to identify his gender in an emotional sense. All he can do is sit back and watch his wife enjoy being pleasured by another man. And he does this because it's a window to what he once had, but will never have again. He takes pleasure from being cruelly reminded of what only a real man can have.

Couple that with queening and chastity and you have very powerful control over that sub. You are reminding him of his place. Yes, he may lick his wife, but only to clean up what another man has left. You're showing him that he only serves a purpose - a means to an end - and a disposable means at that. Once he's done his cleaning duty; he's forgotten about. His role is tiny and is over very quickly.

The chastity part reminds him that it's not about him or his pleasure. He quickly learns his new role - to give pleasure - but not ever to expect pleasure himself. You are using psychology to objectify your sub. He's not a person any more. He's a tool; and he's there to do a job for another. But never to serve himself. This is the every essence of Female Supremacy.

It's is these feelings My subs enjoy and remember the most. It's not about how good the orgasm was (don't forget - orgasm isn't guaranteed in My sessions.) neither is it about how painful the torture was. It's about the roller-coaster of emotions they go through at every stage of the session. I've known slaves break down and cry at the end of a session - because the emotions they felt were so powerful. All those different feelings whizzing around and bumping in to each other have to go somewhere - and the dam bursts - the out-pouring begins. This is why many of My subs will agree that a session is a great stress reliever. IF they are allowed to cum; they release a lot more than ejaculate!

I enjoy that fact that I can experience this with them. Seeing that sense of relief on their face at the end of the session is just as enjoyable as the actual sessions itself. Which is why I said I am like a kinky Agony Aunt. My subs are unburdening themselves - through their fantasies, their desires, their memories and their experiences. They are making sense of what they are feeling. And I'm sharing that journey with them. It is that which makes being a Dominatrix extra special!

Insta-Dommes are SOOOOOO Predictable!

Just like the wildlife begins to creep out of the woodwork after a long winter sleep; at this time of year, the instadommes creep out of the woodwork in a pathetic attempt to get rich for summer. It really is that predictable. As soon as the weather starts to warm up; out then come.all the "fuck you pay me" girls - girls who haven't a clue about Financial Domination or BDSM but think they are deserving of a piece of the action. Yeah, you have a wishlist, you have a webcam, you have a paypal account - hey, it's an easy way to make money, right?! WRONG!

In the last week, I've lost count of the amount of silly little girls, boasting about how they have paypal and demanding "piggies" to send them cash. And in the last week; I've shaken My head at these stupid girls who will very soon find a nasty surprise when they try to log in to their "overstuffed" paypal account. That money they've conned genuine subs out of - all gone - Paypal have their grubby mits on it and won't be giving it back. Neither will they be giving back their Paypal account due to permanent limitation. Yes, don't say I didn't tell you so.

I reckon I'll be a tad older than God before some of these girls understand - PAYPAL DOESN'T ALLOW PAYMENT FOR ADULT SERVICES. I must tweet this out on a weekly basis - and it goes in one ear and out of the other...

But then when you look at the tweets some of these girls send out; it really doesn't surprise Me. A fellow Genuine Domme (Thanks @Mistress_Summer!) pointed one out last week. "pay me pigy, I want this dres." Yes love - very good - now go back to school - elementary school that is.

What gives these girls the right to get a piece of the action? They haven't done their research, they know nothing about etiquette and they certainly haven't learned about safe play. "Oh if I injure a sub through My own ignorance; it's not my problem." Err actually it is...and yes you can be sued.

The funny thing is that I see a lot of these insta-dommes posting about how they've had their time wasted by some fake piggy. Well that's because you're asking for your time to be wasted. Your tweets scream desperation. These "piggies" can see you're desperate - and they're think "oh hell yeah, I gotta have some fun and mess with this bitch!" And that's exactly what they do. They have got one over on you because you've let them - because you haven't done your research and you don't have the experience to see a time-waster coming.

The amount of times I've had a fake fin-sub waste My time in 13 years - twice. Even recently, I had one purchase a load of gear from My amazon wishlist. Before he'd finished I KNEW he was going to cancel those items. I just knew. You get a sense of it when you're experienced. It's not anything they say or do. You can just TELL. So it didn't surprise Me that 2 days later; when I logged on to My amazon account, I found that he'd cancelled those purchases. I saw it coming - which is why he didn't get any attention from Me. Not an ounce. I didn't lose anything and yet he lost the chance to serve a real Domme. Nevermind; a nice insta-domme will surely take care of him...for free...because she'll not have the common sense to wait for his gifts to arrive before she gives him her attention.

I also see instas tweeting to eggs on twitter - "pay me fucker!" Yeah, there's a reason why this person has an egg avi - it means they can't be bothered to make their profile interesting - why on earth would they be bothered to interest you? And why are YOU approaching THEM? I mean why don't you just head out on the street with the begging bowl - it amounts to the same.

And stop bullying these "piggies" submit to you. Servitude is either given or it isn't - accept it!

These insta-dommes are doing a complete disservice to the scene. Those subs who have only ever served an insta-domme, and have suffered a poor experience; sadly assume all Findoms are the same. We aren't. Those of us with the experience and knowledge about Financial Domination will explore the fetish properly - and you'll be more than happy to serve us over and over again. In fact; we don't need to hurl insults and abuse to make you serve us. You will enjoy serving us willingly - and without any prompting.

And what of the genuine subs who have been unfortunate enough to fall victim to an insta-domme? It really isn't fair to insult a submissive's intelligence by claiming to be something you are not. Not only are they paying you; but they are also putting their trust in you. If all you're going to do is stumble blindly through the fetish, having no real clue of what it entails; then you have no business to be in the scene. You're letting down your slave and you're letting down yourself.

You're just going to help the fake finsubs to breed. Just like you think it's "easy money" they think you are "easy prey". Financial Domination isn't easy money - but fake your way though it and you WILL be easy prey.

If you're willing to learn, put in the effort, and do your research; you'll be welcomed into the scene with open arms. The more experienced Dommes will be happy to help you and offer advice. However; if you're a nasty little brat, who thinks the world owes you a living because you look good on webcam - stay way. You are not wanted - by Genuine Dommes and subs alike! 

That moment when you show your pussy on cam....

Pussy: "I've caught bigger mice than that!" 

Sunday, 3 May 2015

How to please Mistress for FREE!

Of course you know it is important to keep Mistress happy. You should be strive hard all the time to make Me happy. If I'm happy; then you're happy. That's how it works. And the longer you keep Me happy; the longer you can enjoy residing in My world. In the words of Sir Isaac Newton; "to every action there is always opposed an equal reaction."

Now here's how you can make Mistress happy for FREE. That's right; I'm giving you a completely FREE and very easy task to complete. Even the most simple-minded bitch-boy can complete this one. It really is that easy.

Your tasks is to take yourself along to My Delivery Code Wishlist via the link below. You are then to click on the "Vouchers 4 Votes" button and vote for Me. Each vote will result in gift vouchers for Me. And I will spend those vouchers on whatever I like to make Me happy. Isn't that easy? Yes, even you can manage that! So what are you waiting for? Get voting and get pleasing Me!