Dispelling the myths about Online Domination.

It is a common misconception among the ignorant that Online Domination is not really BDSM and that those who offer it; are not really Dominatrices. 

The fact is; Online Domination is just as popular as real-time Domination and in many respects; is often much more intense.

The major difference between real time and online is that there is far more psychology involved. "Setting the scene" in person is far easier than it is when you set the scene at a distance. In addition; you're not physically there to ensure slave obeys; so it goes without saying that it takes a greater amount of control to ensure your slave fulfils every single command you give. 

What you have to remember is that Online Dommes do not allow any perceived limitations to become obstacles in their control on their slaves. Rather; they go around them to ensure both Domme and slave receives the best possible experience. This takes a lot of thought on the part of the Domme. She is verbally painting pictures of a BDSM scenario to really allow slave to put his head into the scene and the mindset She expects. It takes a very creative and knowledgeable person to be able to do that; in order to make it as close to the real thing as possible.

And then there's the issue of safety; especially ensuring the safety of slave. In a real-time situation, a Domme can quickly halt any proceedings to ensure slave does not suffer any injury or long-term negative effects of any BDSM practice. That responsibility is much larger when in an online position; because She doesn't have the luxury of being able to do that. Indeed; aftercare after an online session is just as important as it is during a real-time session; more so in many cases. Domme has to rely on slave to ensure he follows Her instructions in order to remain within the realms of safe, sane play. It also means that Domme absolutely has to be fully aware of any potential risks encountered throughout various BDSM practises and have measure in place to ensure slave is not exposed to those risks.

So why does online domination receive such a bad reputation from those who don't really know anything about it?

Indeed; it could be argued that it's not as good as the real thing. Arguably, more control is seized in a real-time scenario. But the fact that it's purely online based does not make it any less tangible. A good online Dominatrix has the ability to make the session seem as though She is really in the room with the slave. She does this not by just sitting there on a webcam and barking orders at Her submissive; but by fully interacting with him and ensuring he plays a very active part in the session. It's all too easy to sit there and say "right slave; this is what I would do if I was there..." Yes; you could do that. But slave is easily going to get bored. It is also commonly known that men are rather more visual then they are imaginative. In terms of porn; men like it to be blunt and to the point; no kissy-kissy romance. They like it dirty and they like it with no holes barred, and they like it in their face. A good Domme knows and demonstrates this.

"Online Domination is not REAL Domination - so why should I have to pay for it?"

Let's put it into a clear perspective here. As I've mentioned above; a good Online Dominatrix will be seriously clued up on safe, sane practices. Whether it be a real-time or online setting; you are still putting your trust in Her 100%. You are also giving up 100% control to Her. When you enjoy an online session with Her; you're not just talking to Her on webcam. You're enjoying years of knowledge and expertise. She is a specialist in the art of BDSM; having spent years learning & researching it. She will often know far more about it than you do; which is why She has the ability to take full control. And She will also be teaching you a few things about not only the BDSM scene, but about yourself along the way. Yes; you could probably go into a chat room and chat to somebody for free about it. But I guarantee; you won't get the same experience and knowledge as you would from actually having a session with a Professional Dominatrix. BDSM is Her career. She's selling a service. And as all good sales-people know; if you're going to sell something; you have to know your product inside and out. If you don't have seller-confidence; how are you ever going to achieve buyer-confidence?

So of course if you're seeking the services of a Professional Online Dominatrix, is perfectly right to expect to pay Her for Her time. She is an expert at what She does. The fact that it's kink shouldn't make a blind bit of difference. Like any other expert; She's offering a service.

In My personal & professional opinion; the bad press which sometimes surrounds Online Domination is brought on by a combination of lack of knowledge both on the part of the submissive and the "Domme" who has not learned Her trade. There are many girls out there who portray themselves as an online "Femdom". You approach them; pay your money and receive absolutely NOTHING to do with the BDSM/Fetish scene. Instead; what you receive is some nasty little brat calling you every name under the sun; while she demands you pay her more money. Of course such an experience is going to leave a bad taste in your mouth and put you off the whole thing.

But keep and open mind. There are many Online Dommes who ARE the genuine article yet don't offer real-time sessions for a variety of different reasons. Those reasons are not limited to them being "fakes". It could be that they are in the same position as Myself - they are in a romantic D/s relationship and therefore are not prepared to take on any real-time slaves unless and until that situation changes. Or perhaps its a safety issue. Or maybe they simply don't have the space to offer real-time. In short; it's down to personal choice - horses for courses. And those choices should be respected; not dismissed out of ignorance.

The truth is; if you've never tried Online Domination before, you truly don't know what you're missing! 

The dreaded "wasabi treatment".....

Ah, the moment chastity sub had long since been dreading. It was time to move his suffering up a few notches. Enter the "wasabi treatment"!

"When Mistress Cristal instructed me to purchase wasabi paste to be used in the next session I was to have with Mistress it immediately filled me with a feeling of deep anticipation and dread. Mistress has ordered me to use hot English mustard and hot Tabasco before on Her cock and balls and nipples and I have experienced and suffered the heat they generate. However wasabi has a reputation of being very hot to touch on skin so the knowledge that I would be experiencing this gave a deep feeling of dread and anticipation. I know that I am fully owned by Mistress Cristal and that I have no choice in what is done to me or my body as it is Mistresses to do with as she desires. I also know that any thought I have on anything is of no concern to Mistress as what is important is what Mistress desires or chooses.

When I went into the supermarket I was full of anticipation and when I picked up the wasabi all I could think of was how hot it would feel on me when used. It was 2 weeks after purchasing the paste that I had a session with Mistress. In those 2 weeks I was always conscious that the paste was there waiting to be used and was in dread of the feeling of it. All that time knowing I had no choice in how it was used as it was all Mistress Cristals choice. I could see the wasabi every day reminding me of what I was due to experience.

On the day of the session I had everything prepared and ready for Mistress Cristal to use in any way she chose. I was in complete trepidation and dread and fear of what was to come and excited in the knowledge that as I am the property of Mistress Cristal that I had to fully submit with no choice or concern of my thoughts.

The session was over an hour of suffering cock, ball and nipple torture for Mistresses amusement and pleasure. Throughout all the suffering I knew there was more to experience and I was in dread that it was going to be worse than I have ever experienced before. When Mistress instructed me to spread a generous amount of the wasabi paste onto a plate I was in complete dread and trepidation in fear it was going to be the worst heat I have ever been made to experience for Mistresses pleasure and amusement.

When Mistress Cristal instructed me to paint the wasabi paste with an artist paint brush generously over Her balls I knew I had no choice but to obey. Before hand the balls had already been made sore and very tender from the session. During the session I had them spanked hard with a wooden spoon before having 2 industrial clamps applied biting in hard and painfully. With the clamps attached I had been forced to do a minutes marching, a minutes jogging on the spot, 20 squats, 20 lunges with the left leg and 20 lunges with the right leg, can can for a minute and a minutes pogo jumping. Throughout all this the pain of the clamps bouncing around tugging hard on the skin of my balls was very hard and got worse with each second. After this I had a pin wheel run deep around the skin next to were the clamps were biting in which was a strong pain going right through me making me shake hard. After this the balls had been further softened by having hot wax dripped on them which as it hit areas were the clamps had bitten in and where the pins had dug in deep really stung hard. Once the wax was hardened every spot of it was removed by whipping hard with a leather belt. Before the paste was even applied my balls were really tender and sore. The heat from the wasabi as the brush touched my balls was like the flame from the candle being applied directly to them. The heat got worse and worse as my balls were fully coated in a thick layer of wasabi paste. They felt like they were on a hot plate with the heat gradually getting hotter and hotter bringing more tears to my eyes all the time.

I was then instructed to paint the paste onto my nipples. During the session they had also been made sore and tender by having clover clamps applied with 16 ounces of weights added to hang off them tugging them down hard before doing the exercises as above. As the exercising had intensified the swinging of the weights on the clamps had gotten worse making the clamps bite harder and tug sharper on my nipples. As the weights bounced up there was a moment of release of tension of the clamps on the nipples immediately followed by gravity forcing the weights back down increasing the pain of the biting of the clamps more and more. Do to the sweating from the exercise, pain and humidity the clamps slipped from the nipples which made them tug down hard on the nipples causing more pain than when they were put on. When I was allowed to remove the industrial clamps from my balls I had to place them on my nipples and as they were already so sore and tender from the weighted clover clamps the pain was tremendous. After Mistress gave me permission to remove the clamps the pin wheel was run over the nipples deep which was incredibly sharp and painful. As my nipples were already so tender and in pain I was in dread of the heat from the wasabi paste. As it was painted on thickly the heat also felt like a naked flame on them getting hotter and hotter and made me shake and sweat a lot more.

The heat from the wasabi paste coated on my balls and nipples was far worse than I had suffered from hot mustard and hot Tabasco and seemed to keep getting hotter and hotter with each second bringing more sweat and tears to my eyes. I had no choice but to endure it for as long as Mistress decided for her pleasure and amusement. My pain and suffering and discomfort was of no concern to Mistress as it is Her pleasure that is the principal goal.

I then had the vibrating butt plug inserted and put on its most intense setting. There was some pleasure felt from the vibrations but this was overwhelmed by the heat.

During the 2 weeks I had the wasabi I had been instructed by Mistress to undertake 2 hours tease and denial every day collecting my pre cum in a brandy glass with an extra 5 hour tease and denial the day before the session. Mistress made me take the full content of the glass into my mouth and keep it there until She said otherwise. It felt humiliating having a mouth full of pre cum being made to taste it for as long as Mistress wanted.

Mistress then gave me permission to wank but only by wrapping coarse sandpaper around Her cock and using that. It was a strange mixture of pain and discomfort from the heat burning my balls and nipples and the sandpaper rubbing my already tortured and tender cock mixed with pleasure from wanking after being on edge for 2 weeks solid and from the vibrating butt plug and shame and humiliation from having a mouthful of pre cum and tasting it all the time. After some hard begging Mistress was very kind to allow me to cum in the glass. I felt great pleasure from cumming which was immediately replaced with a reminder of how hot the wasabi was burning. Mistress then allowed me to swallow all the pre cum and then drink the full content of the glass followed by the humiliation of having to scoop every last part of the cum out with my fingers and lick them clean and swallow it all like I was hungry and thirsty for every last drop of cum like a cum hungry slut.

After the session I also had the humiliation of Mistress informing the whole world of my suffering and showing them pictures of my hot wasabi covered balls and nipples.

It was a relief to have permission after this from Mistress to remove the hot wasabi and apply cucumber to help cool my balls and nipples. It was the hottest they have ever been and the heat lasted for hours . Mistress also filled me with further dread by saying this appeared to be her weapon of choice now knowing how hot it actually is. I know as Mistress Cristal pet and property what is most important is Her pleasure and there is no concern for my thoughts on anything or my suffering in achieving this."

And since then; chastity sub has acquired another "instrument of torture"....keep your eyes peeled for what THAT might be....

CONDITIONS FOR SERVING ME.

Many boys want to know about the conditions in place for serving Me and the rules are really very simple.

1. You MUST be aged 21 or over.
2. You MUST NOT be owned or under consideration.
3. You MUST be prepared to commit to at least 2 webcam sessions per month or 3 email assignments per month.
4. You MUST be GENUINELY SUBMISSIVE - right from your application I will be able to tell if you are not.
5. You MUST understand that My services are not free. Fee is always expected.
6. You MUST NOT dictate the terms of your servitude. While I will respect your limits; I will not bend My rules to suit you.
7. You MUST understand that serving Me is about Me. Your wants and needs do not even enter into the equation.
8. You MUST understand that orgasm/relief is NOT GUARANTEED. Only I have the power to decide if and when you may cum. I will only decide if I feel you have done enough to earn it.
9. You MUST understand the difference between "fees" and "tributes." Fees are what you pay for a session. Tributes are gifts given freely without expectation and obligation.
10. You MUST have at least a basic knowledge of BDSM. If you don't then you will be expected to read and learn BEFORE you approach. While I will happily train those who a new to the scene; I will not train those who are ignorant to it.
11. You MUST be honest about your likes and dislikes. I am not psychic and I expect you to be forthcoming with the truth.
12. You MUST be prepared to surrender control to Me 100%. If you have any shadow of doubt in your mind; then you should not approach. Submission is either given or it isn't.
13. You MUST NOT assume that you will become My property overnight. It takes a lot of hard-work, dedication, loyalty and servitude to reach that honour. Some will never achieve it. Only the most obedient and dedicated; will.

These rules cannot be clearer and the onus is on you to read and understand them. I do not take ignorance as an excuse. If you haven't done your homework from day one; that tells Me that you are not serious enough about serving and will not last the distance. Remember; I take QUALITY above quantity. And to be taken seriously; your application must reflect that you have the quantities I seek in a slave. 

Frustrated "Bingo" Player & Dildo Rodeo..

I absolutely love cam days that are filled with variety. That's the nature of the game - some days you have about 10 sessions of jerk off instruction and some days you have sessions which cover every kind of session imaginable. Those are My favourite days and today was one of them.

The day kicked off with a lovely game of Wank Bingo with a slave. He'd already come once today and felt he needed "punishment" for doing so. It's too easy to tell him he's not allowed to cum. Instead I much prefer to tease him into a frenzy and leave him frustrated. And Wank Bingo is the ULTIMATE game of tease, denial, edging and frustration. I've know boys sob like a big girl when playing; and I always get a thrill from that.

10 bingo calls of numbers between 1 and 25. I count out the numbers generated by My random number generator. But it's the SPEED at which I count which provides the real frustration. I might count very very slowly. Or I might count very very quickly. The pace at which I count is the pace at which you wank. Sometimes I'll start off slowly and speed up. Sometimes I'll start off quickly and slow down. I particularly like it when I get a low number - like say 3 for example - that's three little pumps of your hand - very mean of Mistress.

Today's first game of Wank Bingo left the sub very frustrated. By the time we reached the tenth call; he was on his knees and begging for his release. Would he get it? Only if he came within 14 fast pumps. He didn't. So he went without.

An hour later; he was back again - this time his frustration had gone up a notch. Who am I not take advantage of the situation? So off we went on another round of Wank Bingo - this time I varied the speed greatly just to add to his desperation. 10 calls were made and with each call; the closer and closer to the edge sub got. Last call was 23 - 23 pumps of his cock to cum. Poor boy. 23 obviously wasn't enough for him - he was left feeling extremely frustrated again...I wonder how long it will be before he comes back for a third attempt? Glutton for punishment much?

Second fun session was with a dildo whore who wanted to show Me how much he loves to ride his rubber cock. The dildo provided was pretty impressive - almost the same size as My biggest strap on (10 inches) and after watching him gag and choke on the monster; I made him lube himself up and ram it up his hungry fuck-hole. It's so amusing to watch a man-whore ride a dildo for My entertainment. And he was riding it like a fat lass at a gymkhana. He couldn't get enough; bouncing up and down on that rubber dick while I told him how much of a faggot slut he was. That's when the truth came out. It's no secret that when boys are turned on enough; they'll often let slip their dark secrets.

"I wish it was a real cock Miss;" came his guttural confession. BINGO! Now we know what he really likes. He's not interested in rubber cocks really. He wants the real thing! And as I took him through a kinky fantasy of being gang-banged in a gay club; he rode his dildo faster and faster until he exploded in pleasure. I didn't need to instruct him to eat his mess. He was more than happy to do so. Well he has already admitted how much he loves cock. So loving cum as well goes with the territory....

I have no doubt that he'll act on his faggot fantasies. In fact; I'll make sure he does. Next time he comes to see Me; I'm giving him some homework. He's going to go out cruising for cock; since he wants the real thing so badly. And yes; he will be providing photographic and video evidence. Such an opportunity to humiliate him further is just too good to resist! 

Your sissy life awaits you...

There's a good sissy. Now you just hold still while Mistress turns you into a very pretty girl. By the time I've finished with you; all the boys will want you. They'll all be hard and standing to attention as you show of your girly charms. I guarantee that they will all want to fuck you. All those times you've dreamed about taking as much cock as you can eat! Well that fantasy of yours is about to become reality. There will be no shortage of cock for you. You'll soon get used to having your holes plugged with thick, hard cock-meat. And once I've caged you; you'll no longer be concerned with your own little sissy-cock. You don't need it any more. Girls don't have cocks. They have nice willing holes in which to receive cock. Sissy girls like you spend most of their time on their knees; sucking on cock and taking it up their sweet little pussies. They become addicted to the taste and feel of cum being pumped inside them. This is the life that awaits you. I'll get you so addicted; you'll be more than happy to whore yourself out for My gain. It's a win-win situation. You get to spend the rest of your life as a cock-holster and I get to exploit your sissy ass for My own financial gain! It's that just perfect? Aren't you a lucky little sissy bitch to be given this wonderful opportunity?

Meet Wanksy

Ladies and gentlemen; it gives Me great pleasure to introduce you to Wanksy. Wanksy is a road artist who unlike Banksy; draws only on pot-holes on the road. Wanksy has a particular tag to highlight the problem of pot-holes in that he chooses to draw massive cocks around them. His argument is that "nothing fills a hole like a massive cock." 

You can check out his work in the above video and who knows? Maybe Wanksy will be "cumming" to a pot-hole near you! 

NEW DIGITAL FETISH GOODIES

SADISTIC "FOOTBALL" - WHERE MISTRESS ALWAYS WINS...

Football, football, football...is that all you care about? Oh you'll care differently when I unleash MY version of "football"...

$15 - VIDEO CLIP





NEW HEELS YET TO BE CHRISTENED.

Want the privilege of worshipping My new heels? Well like with all privileges; you must EARN IT!

$15 - VIDEO CLIP




HOW TO START YOUR SISSY WARDROBE.

Find out what items are absolutely essential for making sure you look like a pretty little girl for Mistress.

$30 - VIDEO CLIP

What is Forced Intoxication?

Forced intoxication is the art of having a slave become intoxicated via various substances and then exploiting his intoxication by various humiliating and degrading means. It is something I regularly explore with submissives and often; I like to couple this with some intense humiliation and anal play.

Intoxication is usually via poppers (alkyl nitrites) but can also be via alcohol; the former being the most popular. Other substances can be used; but I generally stick to the above. Of course I don't engage in play with any illegal substances - that's for idiots.

In the case of poppers; slave is instructed to sniff under My direction. Alternatively; vapour (not the liquid itself) can be collected on two slim tampons and inserted into the nostrils to deliver a constant supply of vapour; meaning slave is intoxicated quicker and over a prolonged period of time. The effect is that the user experiences a "high" and this can enhance sexual pleasure. It can also aid relaxation of the anal sphincter which is particularly useful in anal play. Poppers have been known to provide longer and more intense orgasms and heighten sexual pleasure. Many subs have indeed reported stronger erections when using poppers.

Poppers are a liquid substance stored in a small bottle and contain a group of chemicals known as alkyl nitrites. Specifically; alkly nitrates include butyl nitrite, isopropyl nitrite and amyl nitrites. They work by dilating the blood vessels and allowing more blood to get to the heart. They are sniffed from the bottle or via something dipped into the tip of the bottle. In the past; they were used medically to treat angina (chest pain caused by reduced blood flow to the heart) and came in small capsules which were popped open and sniffed - hence the term "poppers." They are not controlled by the Misuse of Drugs act 1971. Possession of poppers is legal in the UK; but may not be so in other countries. You should check the laws of your country before using.

The use of poppers is very popular among My submissives but it is certainly not without it's risks. Poppers should NEVER be used in the case of somebody with heart, lung or blood pressure problems as this can be fatal. That is why I will always check the health history of any sub who wishes to explore this for the first time. In addition; it is important that poppers do not come into direct contact with the skin; as this can cause painful chemical burns; particularly underneath the nostrils. Any spillage on the skin should be immediately be washed off with soap and water. You should also avoid using poppers if you are taking any erectile medicines such as viagra; as they can cause a sharp drop in blood pressure. And absolutely NEVER mix poppers with alcohol as this may lead to unconsciousness and even death through choking on vomit.

Alcohol is generally a safer method of intoxication and this can be coupled with humiliating drinking games. I also like to have a slave use a straw to consume the alcohol as this reduces oxygen intake, thus creating a vacuum. In addition; people generally drink faster when drinking through a straw so ingest larger quantities of alcohol in a shorter period of time; meaning they become intoxicated faster.

Again; this method is not without it's risks and it is important that the submissive has a lining on their stomach before exploring. Spirits should NEVER be mixed to avoid the danger of alcohol poisoning. The trick of forced intoxication is to enable a sub to relax and become compliant; NOT to have them completely intoxicated to the point of passing out. In short; tipsy is good - paralytic is not.

The beauty of forced intoxication is that once a slave is sufficiently relaxed; they will often let down their guard and are therefore more pliable. You will find they will do things that under normal circumstances; would mortify them. Alcohol and indeed any form of intoxication gives a person that false sense of confidence. They feel they are superhuman and free from any responsibility their actions may cause. Judgement is somewhat impaired; meaning you are 100% responsible for the submissive and their welfare. Forced intoxication sessions are intense and it is important that you don't take that level of responsibility lightly.

That said; it doesn't mean you can't have a bit of fun during the session. I have been known to have a sub dress up as a sissy and take a walk to the shops to purchase feminine products - and shoot video in the process. Of maybe; I'll have them make a video confession of their kinkiest, darkest secrets. The results of that are very entertaining; especially when they view said video in the cold light of day - after I've shared it online of course... The list is endless. Fully compliant under the influence; they will obey every single humiliating command because they feel they are invincible...until the effects of intoxication wear off.

That's when the real squirming begins. The horrifying realisation that yes you do did actually do something deeply embarrassing AND it has been shared on the internet for all to see. Or maybe the throbbing sting of your anus is testament to the fact that FINALLY; you did take that huge dildo you've been struggling with AND you enjoyed it! Or maybe it's the financial reality. You were so off your face; you just kept those tributes coming...and your bank account is now looking less than healthy.

That's the thing about forced intoxication. It's very much a psychological fetish; just like many fetishes are. And it's the ULTIMATE form of giving up control; given that you're so high or drunk you don't care about the consequences - until you're sober. Nevertheless; the effects are long-lasting both for sub and Mistress as long as it's done safely. Hours of entertainment for Me...hours of squirming for sub...

An intense torture session with Chastity Sub.

Generally speaking; Chastity Sub reports to Me every Friday afternoon for some harsh CBT and nipple torture so he can show Me how much he enjoys suffering for My amusement. This week however, he reported for his weekly suffering a day early and that feeling is rather like getting an early birthday present - it's a nice surprise and you can't wait to open it!

Now Chastity Sub can take A LOT of torture. He is a very resilient slave who enjoys having his pain threshold pushed over and over again. I certainly don't go easy on him. And I especially don't go easy on him if he appears before Me with a flaccid cock. He knows how I feel about that. He also knows that his cock belongs to Me and because it belongs to Me; it will always stand to attention. If I see it shrinking; it is forced to stand to attention by any painful means necessary. So I like to ensure it behaves itself in this manner by commanding him to repeatedly slap it hard with the back of a wooden spoon. This treatment is just limited to his cock either. The helmet and indeed his balls all get the same harsh treatment to ensure they remember who they belong to.

I also like to start off our sessions rather tame and work up in intensity to drive him into a frenzy. Throughout the session; I will ask him to give Me a pain rating which at the moment can be anywhere between 1 and 300. Obviously; the higher the rating, the more pain he is experiencing. He started off with a rating of 8 - which is simply not good enough for My standards. So to ensure the rating started on a solid incline; I had him attach two of these bad boys to his ball bag...

These clamps are not for the faint-hearted. They are heavy and they pinch - a lot. They bite into the skin nicely and have been known to pierce the skin on a few of our sessions. Those are the sessions when I have him rub vinegar or even salt into the wounds..literally.

But today I decided to increase the intensity of these clamps by having him also attach 16 bulldog clips to his balls. A further 4 bulldog clips were attached to his foreskin and string was threaded through. And to ensure his cock remembered it's place; he was instructed to tug on the string to stretch his foreskin (and make the clips bite in harder) while he whipped the shaft of his cock hard with a folded up leather belt. Half-way through his 2 minutes of whipping; he was already beginning to shake in agony and I was left in no doubt that the pain rating would continue to climb.

Once the whipping was complete; I allowed him to remove the bulldog clips from around his foreskin before having him adopt "Position 2"; for some much-needed exercise:

His weekly exercise regime does vary but this week it included the following:

Marching briskly on the spot - 1 minute.

Jogging on the spot - 1 minute.

15 lunges - right leg

15 lunges - left leg

20 squats.

And perhaps the most cruel of all..

Pogo jumping - 1 minute

Easy you may think? Well not really. For one thing; Chastity Sub is not the fittest of slaves and secondly; aerobic exercise whilst wearing heavy and biting clamps on his balls is NOT easy. This was especially evident when he was doing his pogo jumping - an exercise he dreads. His balls were bouncing all over the place but being weighed down by the clamps. He was in excruciating agony as was evident from the screams he was clearly emitting.

Once I was satisfied he'd had a full work-out; it was back to Position 1 for some further torture and at this point I had him remove two bulldog clips from his balls and place them on his nipples. As you can see; all that exercise worked up quite a sweat - although I do suspect that the pain had something to do with it as well.

Unfortunately for Chastity Sub; he wasn't quite paying attention when I issued that last command and attempted to remove the large clamps from his balls. Tut, tut! I expect My boys to get it right the first time. So on to Position 3 was he for a sound spanking with the back of a wooden spoon. 

Those white marks will be turning purple as the hours tick by - a nice lasting reminder for him pay attention in the future.

Once I was satisfied he had learned his lesson; it was back into Position 1 for some hot wax treatment. His task was to drizzle hot wax all over his shaft and helmet and wait for it to set. This is a method which features more often than not in our sessions simply because it's very intense - particularly in the removal. I don't allow him the luxury of simply picking the wax off. I have him whip the wax off with the leather belt. This can take anywhere from 80 to 200 strokes - depending on how hard he's whipping and it wouldn't be the first time he's ended up with a very bruised and swollen cock as a result. There's no danger of him wanking it after such a session - that cock is too sore for him to manage it.

And after the cock had suffered the wax treatment; it was time for those balls to follow suit. Of course it's far more painful to remove the clips and clamps from his balls than it is to put them on. He always removes the larger clamps rather gingerly and I do enjoy the sight of him shaking in agony as he does so. It's usually at this point the screams get louder and the neighbours start to wonder if somebody is being murdered....

After the clamps have been removed and he's screamed the house down; it's time for the hot wax to be drizzled on to his balls. They're already very sore and the hot wax feels like a thousand bees stinging his ball bag all at once. I like to prolong this treatment so that firstly; I can make sure all of his balls are covered - particularly the "hard to whip" areas and secondly to prolong his agony. What kind of sadist would I be if I didn't? And today while we again waited for the wax to set; I had him pick up his pin wheel and run it all over his cock, including the helmet as he squirmed and shook at the pins digging in nicely. After 2 minutes I had him stop with the pin wheel. It was time to remove the wax.

Watching him whip off all that wax was very satisfying. He was squirming all over the place and would have more than likely gladly ripped off his balls to save himself from the agony. In the past; he's tried to stop before all the wax is removed and has quickly learned the hard way that attempting to fool Mistress is definitely not a good idea. So these days; he ensures he removes every last speck, no matter how painful the process might be.

Another round with the pin wheel followed the wax removal; as he dug the pins into the rather angry looking indentations left by the large clamps. To give you a clue as to how that feels; imagine the worst paper cut you've ever had and then dipping it into a cup of vinegar. Brings tears to your eyes doesn't it? Yes the pin wheel always does for Chastity Sub - particularly when used AFTER the clamps.

Finally to ensure the agony of his "great balls of fire" was prolonged; I instructed him to paint them with hot English mustard. He'll rinse that off when I feel like it. I omitted to tell him a time when he could rinse it off...just to keep him dangling and squirming in pain...

He thinks the English Mustard is the worst. How very much mistaken he is! Next week it's time for the wasabi treatment.

Did Chastity Sub earn his orgasm today? Yes he did. But not without some humiliation. He's been teasing himself for 2 hours every day for the last week. He has ensured he has collected his pre-cum in a brandy glass and reserved it for our session. Usually; I will make him drink it after he's cum in it. But today I decided to make things that bit more shameful for him. Instead, I had him take his mouthful of pre-cum and hold it there while he masturbated into a glass using a piece of coarse sandpaper. Pleasure and pain is the name of the game! After begging for his release; he came very hard and it was only then that I allowed him to swallow his mouthful. Of course there was another mouthful for him to swallow - the mess he'd just made in the glass. He took every last drop like an obedient pet. And what was his pain rating at the end of the session? A whopping 250! Next time; I will ensure he reaches 300 but for now; slave has pleased his Mistress well.

What makes a true submissive?

As I've mentioned before; the reason I only have a handful of owned submissives under My wing is because I take QUALITY over quantity. I have very high expectations and I expect My slaves to strive hard to meet them. Sadly; only a small percentage will last that distance and that small percentage are among the elite - those of whom are able to prove themselves worthy of My precious attention.

Anybody can type out an email and approach a Dominatrix with the intention of serving Her. But it's the thought and effort which goes into that email and indeed beyond; which makes a HUGE difference between gaining Her attention and finding themselves being ignored. "Surely it's just a case of doing as you're told" is a common misconception among many "would be" submissives. In truth it is far more complex than that. Obeying orders is just one small part of the whole dynamic of a D/s relationship and true servitude comes from within.

So what does make a good slave?

Let's talk about submission as a starting point. The fact is; submission is either given or it isn't. And when it is given; it's given in its entirety. No Dominatrix I know of will take on somebody who is only "a little bit" submissive. You either are or you aren't. And if you fall into the unsure category; then perhaps you're not ready to take the plunge into a D/s relationship until you have established what you really are.

By definition; to "submit" is to surrender all free will and give up control to another. And that control is absolute and extends far beyond the physical sense. The "controlled" should expect to have every single aspect of his life controlled for him - his thought patterns; his priorities, his day to day life; sometimes even his diet, his relationships, his wants and his needs and sometimes even his finances. And it is for this very reason why submission cannot be given at only half-measures. And on both sides of the coin; it is not to be undertaken by those who are only mildly curious. Just as giving up control comes with a certain amount of responsibility; taking control comes with a huge amount of responsibility.

As a Dominatrix; I am totally responsible for My slaves and not just their obedience. I am responsible for their physical, mental and emotional well-being. It is so very important not to lose sight of the fact that they are also human beings, Taking control of a slave is not as simple as say training a new puppy. Human beings by nature are far more complex than that and their psyche is often very very fragile. Respect and trust are the most important aspects of a D/s relationship. The submissive respects and trusts in you to keep them safe from any real harm. And you must respect their boundaries and weaknesses. You must also trust in them to be honest.

A true submissive will always put the needs of his Superiors above his own. Indeed; they understand that their needs are not important. That's not to say that they are robots who will willingly obey every command you give. Submission is more than that. It is a state of mind and will come easily to those who are genuinely submissive.

So from the word go; in that first point of contact with a Dominatrix; and before you even start taping out that application email; you need to ask yourself one very important question. "Why should I be considered?" To put things into perspective; I receive countless applications on a weekly basis. 90% of those applications are ignored. Why? Because they lack standards, care, effort and above all; selflessness. So think about the applications that fail to make the grade and consider why yours should stand out from the rest. What are you going to do to encourage said Dominatrix to actually READ your email? And how do you intend to illicit a positive response from Her? As a hint; "wrITing lYke Dis" is rude and unhelpful and will find itself in the bin....Don't rely on the spell-check either. There is no substitute for proof-reading to ensure good spelling and grammar.

Then comes the actual journey of servitude. Ask yourself this; "do you care more about what you get out of it or what your Mistress gets out of it?" Now this might seem an easy question to answer at first. But look at it again and consider another fact. If Mistress chooses to deny you any pleasure for an indeterminate period of time; will you consider yourself lucky or hard done to? If it's the latter; then servitude is not for you. If you understand that your frustration entertains Her and puts a smile on Her face; then your head is starting to get in the right place. And don't think you can fake your way through this process either. A good Dominatrix can spot that a mile off and it will quickly put a rather abrupt end to your journey.

Are you prepared to do whatever Mistress demands of you? If your answer starts with "yes but only if..." don't even continue that sentence. In fact; don't even continue reading. A true submissive realises that his servitude is not open for negotiation. He doesn't do what Mistress commands because he wants to. He does it because his Mistress is making him. That's not to say that Mistress will totally ignore your limits. These limits or "no go" areas are agreed upon before servitude begins. It is also mutual and...here's that important word again..RESPECTED. Mistress doesn't breach your limits on the understanding that you don't breach Hers. Respect is a two-way street.

And finally; is your selflessness "outside the box"? Are you intuitive in how you can further please your Mistress? Have you paid enough attention to Her to understand how best to please Her? Now this is something which separates the wheat from the chaff. A true submissive has the initiative to go above and beyond not because he wants something out of it; but because he receives real pleasure from the knowledge he has pleased his Mistress. And he comes up with more creative and SELFLESS ways to do this. Everything he does is with his Mistress in mind. And because it's with Mistress is mind; he always seeks Her permission before he does it. Making assumptions is the worst thing a sub and in fact a Domme can do. NEVER ASSUME. Just like every submissive is different; so is every Dominatrix. And we Dommes are VERY unpredictable. We make it our mission to be unpredictable - that's how we keep you chomping at the bit to continue pleasing us. The steps are simple - think, ask and act accordingly. And accept when Mistress says "no". Boys who whine and complain are not submissive. They're needy and they're selfish. I personally don't give the time of day to needy boys. I prefer boys who respect the word "no" as My final answer. Neither should a submissive expect Mistress to back up Her decision with a reason. The answer is simply; "because She has said so."

Chastity Sub becomes My owned pet.

It gives Me great pleasure to announce that Chastity Sub has achieved the highest honour after going above and beyond in his servitude and is now a fully owned pet. Here you can see him in the position he is expected to adopt when he presents himself to Me - naked, kneeling, hands behind his back and of course wearing his slave collar. He will be having a nice little tag attached to the collar once it's been fully engraved....I'm saving that as a reward if he pleases Me between now and his six month review.

Chastity Sub is the second of My owned pets; the first being Panty Boy. It may surprise you to know that I have only two slaves under My ownership. And why is this? Because I take QUALITY over quantity. Ownership is not something which happens automatically. It takes months of hard work; selfless servitude and exceptional behaviour to achieve this honour. And while many slaves serve Me; only those who meet My high standards are ever considered for ownership. Like both Chastity Sub and Panty Boy have; they must prove themselves worthy of this prestigious position. Many won't - but a few will be an exception. And it is those few who will attract My attention.

Of course ownership is only the beginning of the journey. Once you become My pet; that's when the REAL hard work starts. Just as ownership can be given; it can also be taken away. It is your duty to continue to work hard to please Me in order to hang on to that status. This means going above and beyond in your servitude; always keeping Mistress at the forefront of your mind. Chastity Sub and Panty Boy will last that distance. Both have the qualities I look for in a slave. Their devotion to Me will never falter; because they know how much My presence in their lives mean to them. They please Me not because I expect them to. But because they WANT to. The thought of disappointing Me is too terrible to imagine and they will do whatever they can to win My approval - THIS is what makes a good slave. And THIS is why only a few ever find themselves under My consideration. Slaves like these boys are among the elite. And they know what they must do in order to remain in that elite - always loyal, always devoted, always selfless and always obedient. And in turn; I am proud of them to have reached this exceptionally high standard.