Why I Hate "Instadommes."

As much as I love Twitter and don't get Me wrong, there are some great people on there; there is one thing which really gets on My tits - and that would be instadommes.

Yes, some of you will have heard this term before. Some of you will know what it means, some of you wont, but for clarification; an instadomme is usually a young girl, late teens to early 20's who has deluded herself into thinking that if she spends her time, insulting and abusing submissive men, demanding cash from them, she can get rich - WRONG!

Classic instadomme lines include "fucking pay me paypiggy!" and "Open that fucking wallet, loser!" That's right, before she has even established herself, gotten to know her audience, she is insulting not only them, but their intelligence. She will send out these derogatory tweets fifteen to the dozen, and will either be ignored or attract the attention of a time-waster.

I'm on twitter all day every day, and I get so tired of seeing these girls sending out constant "give me money fucker!!" A financial slave is not somebody you treat like a piece of shit. A financial slave, despite them not being on your level, are still entitled to respect. Genuine financial slaves will WANT to give you cash, gift cards and gifts. They will offer it. But if you bully them into it with constant insults, demanding it like a spoilt little child, you will not be successful - I guarantee that.

I also want to make something else clear. The fact that you have a wishlist and a webcam does NOT make you a Domme. Period.
A genuine Domme has spent a lot of time learning all about the scene. She knows all about safe-play inside and out. She knows how to get into a slave's head and make them feel so honoured to have the gift of Her time. She knows what makes Her slave tick. She has taken the time to get to know Her slave. She uses manners, is polite and professional. But She is intelligent - like Her slave.

How many of these instadommes have put slaves at risk by doing something risky? How many of them know where to and where NOT to use a riding crop or cane? How many of them know the risks involved in electrical play? And this is another reason why I detest instadommes - it's so easy to put your slave at serious risk if you don't know what you're doing - even if you're dominating online. If your slave follows an incorrect or unsafe instruction, at best, you're looking at a lawsuit, at worse, you're looking at a conviction!

It's these instadommes which give the Genuine Dommes among us a bad name. I, like My fellow Dommes; have worked bloody hard to ensure our clients/slaves get what they pay for. We show them a degree of respect. We NEVER insult them (unless they ask for it of course!) and we don't expect something for nothing. We work at it! We don't sit there demanding cash because we think it's our God-given right. And that's why we earn the respect of the true and genuine submissives.

And speaking of true submissives - those who are genuine will know the difference between a real Domme and an instadomme - and will give them a wide berth. Don't insult their intelligence. If you really want to earn from this scene, then do the decent thing and LEARN about BDSM and Fetish. LEARN how to be a Financial Dominatrix. Read, read and read again and know your art inside and out. Do yourself and your slave some justice, develop your own style and remember - respect is not an automatic thing. You have to EARN it!