Insta-Dommes never learn..

You can always tell when it's summer. The weather gets warmer. The days get longer - and all the instadommes crawl out of the woodwork. They seem to think it's an easy way to get wads of cash for them to spend on their summer holidays.

Let's get one thing absolutely straight here. Financial Fetish is NOT a get rich quick scheme. If it was; all the established and genuine Findoms would have long-since retired to lead a life of luxury. Let's get real here. You aren't going to get rich from it - and you're not going to make a single penny if you don't know anything about the fetish.

Today, I've seen a so-called "findom" who brings nothing but shame to the scene. Not only is she clueless, but she seems to think that being foul-mouthed and abusive is the key to success. She also thinks buying twitter followers also makes her successful. No, it makes you desperate. In fact, no genuine finsub is going to touch you. Time-wasters however; will flock to you in their droves. They know you're clueless and will quite happily exploit that - time-wasting is a fetish in itself, don't forget.

In 13 years in the scene; I have received many gifts from subs. Each one has been offered - never demanded. These gifts are a lovely surprise from boys who have enjoyed being in My online company. Or they have simply sent Me a gift because they want to - because I have obviously done or said something which as meant a great deal to them. It's a form of gratitude.

Let's put things into perspective here. Would you say to your friends and family; "it's my birthday next week, so you better fucking give me a gift, losers!" No, you wouldn't. The most you would get is a slap in the face for being such a nasty little bitch. You'd lose friends and admirers pretty rapidly too. So why then; is it acceptable to speak to your followers like this? It isn't. Sub boys are still human beings at the end of the day. Granted; they differ from Dommes in terms of status - but they are still human. And even though they should of course been completely respectful to those above them; respect is very much a two-way street. Show a modicum of respect to your sub, and they will show the utmost respect to you. Verbally abuse them, and generally have a mouth like a sewer and they will avoid you like the plague. Subs like class, dignity and intelligence. They don't like a trashy little gutter-mouth who projects an image of desperate little slapper. They won't touch you with a dead man's dick, nevermind their wallets!

Now this particular "findom" had some serious delusions of grandeur - she is apparently going to take over the findom world! Funnily enough; I don't hear the sound of a hundred genuine Findoms quaking in their thigh boots...I think she may be confusing that with them pissing themselves laughing!

The fact is; if you're fake and you scream fake; you will be found out. You WILL be exposed. It might not be some exposure account which does it. You will expose YOURSELF. Genuine Dommes and subs have heard and read your tweets before - your tweets are a carbon copy of every other instadomme I've seen and you're not fooling anybody...except maybe yourself that is.

If you want to truly become a Findom - put in the effort and learn about the fetish - have a sense of pride in what you do. Those who do put in the effort will reap the rewards. Those who don't and instead prefer to fake their way through it will end up either being caught out or end up at the mercy of many time-wasters - its just a question of which will happen first...

Blue Balls Anyone?

Poor little pain sub. He's been in chastity for a whole week. During that week, he's had to endure endless teasing and denial from your's truly. Today, he enjoyed 40 minutes of intense cock and ball torture. He got so hard and excited and was leaking away from the word go. All engorged but no where to cum. I felt it far more fun to deny him for another week - let's see just how blue those balls can get, shall we?

What is it to be "owned"?

The words; "You own me" are banded about a lot by many of the submissives I encounter. But the fact is; few of them actually know what that means. And an even smaller number are ever truly owned by Me.

What is it to be "owned" by a Dominatrix? Simply put it means you become Her property. And not just in title. To be "owned" means you are freely giving all of yourself to Mistress - mind, body and soul. It also means you are freely giving Her your entire life - everything you do and everything you are. That is real ownership.

Real ownership means that from the moment you wake up in the morning until the moment you go to sleep at night - you live your life for Mistress. Mistress is the sole focus of your mind. Every single task you perform is with Mistress in mind. You live for Mistress. You live in accordance with the way Mistress expects. Your entire life revolves around the needs and desires of Mistress. Your needs and desires become obsolete; as does your independent persona. Everything about yourself, as an independent person does not matter. Indeed; they are now extinct. The only thing which matters in your life is your Mistress - your Owner.

In actual fact, very few subs can rightfully consider themselves to be owned by Me. I can count them on one hand. While many of the submissives I speak to would like to be "owned" be Me, only a chosen few are - because I prefer QUALITY over quantity.

Those who do enjoy being owned by Me; understand the responsibility that comes with the territory. They understand that it is far more than just a "title". Titles are just words - a combination of letters in a certain order. Being owned comes from within and they knew they have to strive hard to retain that status. What's more; they enjoy striving hard to retain it. They seek only to please Mistress and make Her proud. They take whatever Mistress throws at them - the good and the bad - and they do this without question or objection. They know that they can only ever be truly happy when they have made Mistress happy. Everything else pales into insignificance. They have only once true purpose in life - to please and to give - all of themselves - completely.

No, it's not about gifts or tributes. This is another common misconception. If you think I'm going to "own" you simply because you have purchased a stack of stuff from My Wishlist then you are very much mistaken. Anybody can do that. Those are just things. And I guarantee your gifts will be remembered long after you are forgotten.

But if you prove to Me, during the course of your servitude that you have what it takes to be considered for ownership; then that's a different matter. It's about the DOING and the BEING - actions and reactions.  It's about demonstrating your own unique qualities and standing out from the rest; and therefore making yourself memorable to Mistress - in a positive light. I remember a lot of so-called "subs" in a negative light - and the few I remember in a positive light are those who now belong to Me.

So you see - it's not simply a case of stating "you own me, Mistress". It is far more complicated that that and takes EFFORT on your part. Anybody can put four little words together. But can you truly appreciate and act on what those four little words mean?