Forget what you think you know about Financial Domination because I'm about the set the record straight. It's high time somebody dispelled the myths about Financial Domination/Financial Fetish so that those who practice or indulge in it can fully understand what it is.
Financial Domination is NOT about money! Let's be absolutely clear about that. If you think that Financial Domination is about getting rich by taking money off "piggies" then you're very much mistaken. It is about POWER. It is also a deeply psychological fetish and if done properly; takes a good degree of intelligence and hard work.
The whole point of Financial Domination is to get into the mind of a submissive so deeply that they WANT to spend their money on you. Now that isn't something which comes easy even to the most experienced of Financial Mistresses. Why? Because everybody is different. The mind is also a very complex part of the human body and is not always open. For you to control the mind of another; they have to allow you into their mind in order to do that. And that takes time and lots of gentle "coaxing".
Let's think of the mind in terms of an onion. An onion has lots of different layers. It has the flimsy friable skin on the outside which while it will break very easily; it won't always peel away all at once. It takes several attempts and you have to go all the way around the onion in order to peel that skin away. And once you've peeled away that skin then you have another slightly tougher skin to peel away - one that doesn't break as easily. This is what it's like when trying to get into the mind. You have to peel away the layers gently and slowly in order for the mind to feel comfortable to let you in. There will be barriers and walls put up - that is basic human survival. We all put up a wall of protection - some higher than others; because we are fragile. The mind is very fragile as well as it is complex.
The trick is to break down those barriers but again; you have to do it gently and a layer at a time. Go in hard; and those barriers will be back up and much stronger than before. Go in deeply aggressive; and those barriers will become impenetrable.
But want happens once you have broken down those barriers and you're through to the soft and squidgy middle? The mind becomes fully open and is yours to control and massage. Think about it in terms of a lump of clay. To get the shape you desire; you have to knead, squeeze, pinch and stroke until it's finally in the shape you want. It's the same with the mind. And when you've achieved that shape; the clay will finally do exactly what you want it to do. You fire it and glaze it and you've got a nice bowl or cup to use.
Gentle steps will do the same with the human mind. But those steps have to have an element of respect. Like a lump of clay; if you're too clumsy; the clay will lose it's shape and you have to start all over again. However unlike clay; the barriers come back up meaning it's not possible to start again. You've lost your access to the mind forever.
This is why when I say "findoms" tweeting "fuck you pay me" tweets; I cringe for them. That isn't real Financial Domination. For one thing; you're not putting in the hard work needed. Second; you're demonstrating your complete lack of knowledge of the fetish and finally you're simply demanding.
Financial Domination is not about demanding tributes. If you've successfully managed to get into the mind of your slave; he will be so desperate to please you; he will OFFER tributes. He will have a desperate need to do that. It will be an itch that cannot be ignored. He will feel compelled to act on those feelings. But why would he want to act on those feelings? Well not because you're expecting it from him. But because of the euphoric feeling he gets from acting on them.
Consider what happens when you donate to charity. Be it a charity tin or even a text donation method. You pay your money and what happens? You get that warm fuzzy feeling. That feeling of accomplishment and the satisfaction that you've done something to make a difference. You feel happy inside that your donation will help to make the life of somebody that much better. You enjoy that feeling - it feels good doesn't it? It feels even better when you donate a large amount to a charity you really care about. You feel almost giddy with that feeling of good will you get deep in your bones.
Now magnify that feeling by about a hundred. It's spread throughout your whole body. It's releasing those endorphins which make you happy. You're floating on air. You adore that feeling. And because you adore it; you want to feel it again and again. That's the feeling a financial sub experiences when he's done something to please his Mistress. It's not about meeting a demand. He's spontaneously sent a gift because he knows it will make Mistress happy - and he feels proud of doing that. He feels proud that he is the one to really make Mistress happy. It puts a smile on his face and a tent in his trousers. He can't get enough of that feeling and wants to experience it more. It's like a drug - he becomes more and more addicted to the feelings of euphoria he gets from spoiling his Mistress. And what makes that feeling more intense? The fact that he's CHOSEN to do it. He hasn't done it under duress or because Mistress has made bratty demands of him. Mistress has simply graced his life with acknowledgement and communication and he feels compelled to offer a gesture of thanks for Her presence in his life. But he's done it unconditionally. That is an important factor - a financial slave will give UNCONDITIONALLY. He realises that it's a gift he's giving and he doesn't want anything in return - that euphoric feeling he gets from giving; is more than enough.
So how do you get to this stage in Financial Domination? The answer is "patience". While it's quite okay to expect an initial tribute from a financial slave; it is NOT okay to expect ridiculous amounts of money instantly afterwards. Take the piss and get greedy and you won't see that slave for dust. You have to respect that they are human beings too and if they don't want to tribute you; they won't. Calling them every name from a pig to a dog; and threatening to "ruin their life" (yes; I've seen one silly girl do this!) is NOT going to change their mind. It's going to put them off and have them avoiding you like the plague.
I have been practising Financial Domination for approximately 16 years. In that time; I've received countless financial gifts and physical gifts. But NOT ONE of those gifts have ever been demanded. It has simply been a case of Me opening up My emails in the morning or the postman knocking at the door and I'm greeted with a lovely tribute from a slave. And you know what? I ALWAYS thank said slave. I'm not over the top with thanking them. But I do thank them in a respectful manner. It's also good to post a picture of said gift with a nice little thank you message. This adds to that nice euphoric feeling slave enjoys - they have seen evidence of their actions making Mistress happy - and that's what they want above all.
But none of these loyal slaves have sent Me gifts from the word "go". It has taken time to establish a trusting relationship with them. I communicate with them, I allow them to serve Me on webcam, I give them a shoutout on twitter and I will even allow them into details of My personal life - like telling them what I got up to over the weekend; sharing My opinion of current affairs with them or even asking after their well-being. It's called "human interaction" and that is by far the most important part of Financial Domination. They need to see that beneath the leather and the whips; there is a real person. Not just some faceless girl hiding behind a laptop and tweeting out abusive demands for money.
This leads Me on to the "I'm having a manicure; pay me!" kind of tweets. No, these are not good. If you're at the top of your game when it comes to Financial Domination; you shouldn't need to tweet ridiculous demands like these. By showing your slave a degree of respect and understanding that they are human beings with human feelings; that manicure will pay for itself. But you must work hard in order for that to happen. You cannot just sit there and expect to be paid because you've sent out a handful of tweets. It doesn't work like that. You've got to put in the effort and come across as somebody a slave WANTS to spend his money on. And be classy with it too! Sophistication and confidence are two very sexy qualities. Maturity is also a very sexy quality. Intelligence is a very sexy quality. Don't come across as cheap brat with a webcam and a wishlist. You'll only attract the attention of time-wasters and very pissed off Dommes who HATE those who behave like this. Real financial subs loathe it too and will see you for what you really are. They expect you to be intelligent because they're intelligent too - don't insult that intelligence by sitting there with a "pay me fucker" attitude. It's just going to make you very unpopular.
One final note; contacting a genuine Findom with "how can I get more paypigs?" is embarrassing and amateur. If you don't know the answer to that question; I suggest you re-read what I've written above. Neither do genuine Findoms approach a sub first. They approach YOU! And if both parties are genuine; eventually you'll enjoy exploring the fetish together. But be warned; Financial Fetish is NOT something to practice if you "want more money for the holidays" or "you fancy a new outfit." If you focus solely on how much money you can get (and it's NOT as much as you think!) you've already failed and will have no hope of ever being taken seriously.
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