Do you really know all about Financial Domination?

Forget what you think you know about Financial Domination because I'm about the set the record straight. It's high time somebody dispelled the myths about Financial Domination/Financial Fetish so that those who practice or indulge in it can fully understand what it is.

Financial Domination is NOT about money! Let's be absolutely clear about that. If you think that Financial Domination is about getting rich by taking money off "piggies" then you're very much mistaken. It is about POWER. It is also a deeply psychological fetish and if done properly; takes a good degree of intelligence and hard work. 

The whole point of Financial Domination is to get into the mind of a submissive so deeply that they WANT to spend their money on you. Now that isn't something which comes easy even to the most experienced of Financial Mistresses. Why? Because everybody is different. The mind is also a very complex part of the human body and is not always open. For you to control the mind of another; they have to allow you into their mind in order to do that. And that takes time and lots of gentle "coaxing".

Let's think of the mind in terms of an onion. An onion has lots of different layers. It has the flimsy friable skin on the outside which while it will break very easily; it won't always peel away all at once. It takes several attempts and you have to go all the way around the onion in order to peel that skin away. And once you've peeled away that skin then you have another slightly tougher skin to peel away - one that doesn't break as easily. This is what it's like when trying to get into the mind. You have to peel away the layers gently and slowly in order for the mind to feel comfortable to let you in. There will be barriers and walls put up - that is basic human survival. We all put up a wall of protection - some higher than others; because we are fragile. The mind is very fragile as well as it is complex. 

The trick is to break down those barriers but again; you have to do it gently and a layer at a time. Go in hard; and those barriers will be back up and much stronger than before. Go in deeply aggressive; and those barriers will become impenetrable. 

But want happens once you have broken down those barriers and you're through to the soft and squidgy middle? The mind becomes fully open and is yours to control and massage. Think about it in terms of a lump of clay. To get the shape you desire; you have to knead, squeeze, pinch and stroke until it's finally in the shape you want. It's the same with the mind. And when you've achieved that shape; the clay will finally do exactly what you want it to do. You fire it and glaze it and you've got a nice bowl or cup to use.

Gentle steps will do the same with the human mind. But those steps have to have an element of respect. Like a lump of clay; if you're too clumsy; the clay will lose it's shape and you have to start all over again. However unlike clay; the barriers come back up meaning it's not possible to start again. You've lost your access to the mind forever.

This is why when I say "findoms" tweeting "fuck you pay me" tweets; I cringe for them. That isn't real Financial Domination. For one thing; you're not putting in the hard work needed. Second; you're demonstrating your complete lack of knowledge of the fetish and finally you're simply demanding. 

Financial Domination is not about demanding tributes. If you've successfully managed to get into the mind of your slave; he will be so desperate to please you; he will OFFER tributes. He will have a desperate need to do that. It will be an itch that cannot be ignored. He will feel compelled to act on those feelings. But why would he want to act on those feelings? Well not because you're expecting it from him. But because of the euphoric feeling he gets from acting on them.

Consider what happens when you donate to charity. Be it a charity tin or even a text donation method. You pay your money and what happens? You get that warm fuzzy feeling. That feeling of accomplishment and the satisfaction that you've done something to make a difference. You feel happy inside that your donation will help to make the life of somebody that much better. You enjoy that feeling - it feels good doesn't it? It feels even better when you donate a large amount to a charity you really care about. You feel almost giddy with that feeling of good will you get deep in your bones.

Now magnify that feeling by about a hundred. It's spread throughout your whole body. It's releasing those endorphins which make you happy. You're floating on air. You adore that feeling. And because you adore it; you want to feel it again and again. That's the feeling a financial sub experiences when he's done something to please his Mistress. It's not about meeting a demand. He's spontaneously sent a gift because he knows it will make Mistress happy - and he feels proud of doing that. He feels proud that he is the one to really make Mistress happy. It puts a smile on his face and a tent in his trousers. He can't get enough of that feeling and wants to experience it more. It's like a drug - he becomes more and more addicted to the feelings of euphoria he gets from spoiling his Mistress. And what makes that feeling more intense? The fact that he's CHOSEN to do it. He hasn't done it under duress or because Mistress has made bratty demands of him. Mistress has simply graced his life with acknowledgement and communication and he feels compelled to offer a gesture of thanks for Her presence in his life. But he's done it unconditionally. That is an important factor - a financial slave will give UNCONDITIONALLY. He realises that it's a gift he's giving and he doesn't want anything in return - that euphoric feeling he gets from giving; is more than enough.

So how do you get to this stage in Financial Domination? The answer is "patience". While it's quite okay to expect an initial tribute from a financial slave; it is NOT okay to expect ridiculous amounts of money instantly afterwards. Take the piss and get greedy and you won't see that slave for dust. You have to respect that they are human beings too and if they don't want to tribute you; they won't. Calling them every name from a pig to a dog; and threatening to "ruin their life" (yes; I've seen one silly girl do this!) is NOT going to change their mind. It's going to put them off and have them avoiding you like the plague. 

I have been practising Financial Domination for approximately 16 years. In that time; I've received countless financial gifts and physical gifts. But NOT ONE of those gifts have ever been demanded. It has simply been a case of Me opening up My emails in the morning or the postman knocking at the door and I'm greeted with a lovely tribute from a slave. And you know what? I ALWAYS thank said slave. I'm not over the top with thanking them. But I do thank them in a respectful manner. It's also good to post a picture of said gift with a nice little thank you message. This adds to that nice euphoric feeling slave enjoys - they have seen evidence of their actions making Mistress happy - and that's what they want above all. 

But none of these loyal slaves have sent Me gifts from the word "go". It has taken time to establish a trusting relationship with them. I communicate with them, I allow them to serve Me on webcam, I give them a shoutout on twitter and I will even allow them into details of My personal life - like telling them what I got up to over the weekend; sharing My opinion of current affairs with them or even asking after their well-being. It's called "human interaction" and that is by far the most important part of Financial Domination. They need to see that beneath the leather and the whips; there is a real person. Not just some faceless girl hiding behind a laptop and tweeting out abusive demands for money.

This leads Me on to the "I'm having a manicure; pay me!" kind of tweets. No, these are not good. If you're at the top of your game when it comes to Financial Domination; you shouldn't need to tweet ridiculous demands like these. By showing your slave a degree of respect and understanding that they are human beings with human feelings; that manicure will pay for itself. But you must work hard in order for that to happen. You cannot just sit there and expect to be paid because you've sent out a handful of tweets. It doesn't work like that. You've got to put in the effort and come across as somebody a slave WANTS to spend his money on. And be classy with it too! Sophistication and confidence are two very sexy qualities. Maturity is also a very sexy quality. Intelligence is a very sexy quality. Don't come across as cheap brat with a webcam and a wishlist. You'll only attract the attention of time-wasters and very pissed off Dommes who HATE those who behave like this. Real financial subs loathe it too and will see you for what you really are. They expect you to be intelligent because they're intelligent too - don't insult that intelligence by sitting there with a "pay me fucker" attitude. It's just going to make you very unpopular. 

One final note; contacting a genuine Findom with "how can I get more paypigs?" is embarrassing and amateur. If you don't know the answer to that question; I suggest you re-read what I've written above. Neither do genuine Findoms approach a sub first. They approach YOU! And if both parties are genuine; eventually you'll enjoy exploring the fetish together. But be warned; Financial Fetish is NOT something to practice if you "want more money for the holidays" or "you fancy a new outfit." If you focus solely on how much money you can get (and it's NOT as much as you think!) you've already failed and will have no hope of ever being taken seriously.

Dispelling The Myths About Financial Fetish.

Financial Fetish....many claim to practice it..few actually understand it.

Financial fetish is perhaps among the most complex of fetishes; given that the fact that it's primarily psychological. And what you think you know about Financial Fetish probably leans more towards fiction rather than fact.

First and foremost; Financial Fetish is primarily about power. It is perhaps one of the most extensive forms of slave control. The fact that it involves money is irrelevant. The financial aspect it secondary to the mechanics of the fetish. It is the complete power exchange which makes the fetish so very exciting to those who desire to explore it.

It is for this reason; it is imperative to research the fetish as fully as possible. And this is the advice I give to newbie slaves and Dommes alike. One cannot simply wake up one morning and decide they are going to be a Financial Dominatrix. Just like one cannot wake up one morning and decide to be a financial slave. The fetish requires you to have an extensive knowledge of all the facets of it before you even begin to practice it.

Perhaps the most common misconception about Financial Fetish is that Dommes can use bratty and abusive language to encourage slaves to give them money. Incorrect. You cannot force a slave to become your financial slave; particularly if they have never explored the fetish before. There has to be a desire and understanding on both sides. That is how you build trust in the relationship. If there isn't an amount of trust on either side; then that professional relationship is doomed to failure. Neither are you exercising the power you have over your financial slave. As I've stated before; the fetish is very much psychological. The key to Financial Fetish is having the power to make your slave WANT to hand over his money. A good Financial Dominatrix should never need to resort to demanding cash. If you have managed to stoke the fires of desire within your slave; it will be offered freely.

That said; there is nothing wrong with reiterating the control you have over your slave. Garnishing their salary is common practice; provided slave is agreeable. Provided you have begun the groundwork of establishing trust; your slave will happily submit with details of his finances so that you can work out a monthly budget. But don't get greedy unless you're a rinser. Like all forms of domination; respect is still of the highest importance. You're not going to bankrupt your slave (unless that is what he wants). You're going work with him to establish a realistic tribute budget.

And this is where the psychology of the fetish comes in. You are controlling various aspects of your slave's life; not just his finances. You're deciding what sacrifices he should make in order to make you happy. Wants and needs are important. He wants to go out on the piss with his mates next Friday; but he needs to make sure he has enough to meet his submissive obligations. And if he's a genuine financial slave; he'll happily cancel his plans for a night on the town - because being shown you're controlling this area of his life is very exciting to him. And while he's sat at home; instead of in the local pub; he'll be working himself up into an erotic frenzy simply because you have demonstrated the power you have over him. And it is this which will keep him coming back for more...

This is but a small example of the very nature of the fetish and it is up to you to research it further. The complexities of it are far too many to put in a simple blog entry. Many Financial Mistresses spend years learning the fetish to ensure they are fully knowledgeable. It is not something one can learn in a few hours.

But once you've done your research; it's time for you to put what you have learned into practice. Market yourself; but market yourself wisely. How you conduct yourself in your advertising reflects how well you know your stuff. And it's very easy to get it 100% wrong.

"Pay me because I deserve it, fag boy! Your #FinancialGoddess demands your cash!"

Incorrect. This is a tweet from somebody who is not only clueless about the fetish; but demonstrates how she is money orientated. As I've explained previously; Financial Fetish is NOT just about money. It's about power and having the power to make your slave WANT to tribute you. And if you are indeed motivated by money; and believe the ridiculous myth that it's "easy money" - Financial Fetish definitely isn't for you.

"Does Financial Domination put you in a quiver? Find out more about the ULTIMATE form of control!" 

Now this is a good example of how to market your services. You're talking about it from slave's point of view. You're showing that you understand how Financial Fetish makes a financial slave really feel. You're also showing that you understand about the fetish. You've done your homework - and because you've done your homework; you're more likely to gain interest.

So what happens once you've gained the interest of a financial slave? Well this is good advice for both Dommes and subs alike.

Most experienced Financial Mistresses will expect a tribute up front. This is not a sign of greed. Nor it is a sign that they are "fake"  (although this is an accusation some have experienced.)

As a genuine financial slave; the onus is on you to prove first; how much you understand the fetish and secondly; how you propose to go forward. And think carefully when you make your initial tribute. How much you spend will often determine whether or not you will receive a response to your application. Again; this is not a signal that Mistress is greedy. It is what separates the true financial slaves from the players.

Players are those who a) don't know about the fetish b)seek to waste the time of Mistress and c) do not have the correct mind-set to explore the fetish. An experienced Mistress will spot a player very quickly - even before they have sent tribute. Players will often make ridiculous suggestions of what they can afford - and in reality won't send a penny. Secondly; on the rare occasions they do send tribute; they will expect something in return - that isn't Financial Fetish. The fact that you are enjoying the power Mistress has over you; is the very essence of the fetish.

In addition; players are attracted to those who practice the fetish but in reality know nothing about it. In other words "instadommes". Yes; those girls how use foul language and demand money. Those who tweet intimate pictures in return for money. Players love these because they know full well they can lead them a merry dance. They exploit the girls' ignorance and lack of knowledge; turning their time-wasting behaviour into a fetish all on it's own.

Those girls who have been burned by players will often tweet about them "avoid @fredbloggs - #timewaster!" Yep - you've just given said player what he wants - attention and acknowledgement. He knows he's gotten to you and has achieved exactly what he set out to do.

I personally can spot a player before they've realised it - they never get a response. And I won't reward them with undeserved attention.

So how to tribute? Again; this demonstrates the importance of doing your homework. Most will set out exactly how they expect tribute. That means you respect those methods. You don't quibble about it and ask if they take other methods. Power and control is not about negotiation. And by demanding another tribute method; you're already attempting to control the relationship. Remember; it's always on Mistress' terms. Your needs and desires will be acknowledge should it be deemed necessary.

For the record; it is NEVER a good idea to offer Paypal as a method of tribute. Paypal do not accept payments for adult services - and you will quickly find your Paypal account permanently limited and all your money gone. Neither should you consider bank transfer until you have gotten to know your slave very well. And even then; you should exercise caution. Gift vouchers and NiteFlirt tributes are My recommendations.

So what happens after initial tribute?

Provided you have pleased Mistress with your initial tribute; She will contact you. Perhaps She may conduct an online interview with you to gauge just how extensive your knowledge of the fetish is. Or She may even send you a budget sheet for you to complete. I personally like to go down the "interview" route - and establish a rapport with said slave before working out a monthly budget. This will also help to deal with any fears or misconceptions from either of you - as well as establishing mutual trust. It's also a good idea to establish if slave would like things like verbal abuse to be part of the process.

Once the budget is worked out - REALISTICALLY; exploration begins. Slave will make his monthly tribute to Mistress without being asked. A good Financial Mistress should not need to remind him - nor should She have to demand it. It comes naturally - a part of slave's life. And of course if slave should happen to forget his obligations; he readily accepts financial penalties - again paying them without being asked. He will also ensure Mistress is aware of any "treats" he has planned for himself - a holiday, season ticket to his favourite football team - and as part of the control; Mistress will decide if he may have those treats. If She feels he doesn't deserve them; he goes without - and enjoys going without with the fully knowledge he's made that sacrifice to please Mistress. He will pay close attention to the needs of Mistress - make regular visits to any wishlists and look at how he can please Her with a gift. If Mistress sends him a picture of said received gift; he sees it as a bonus. But the fact he's sent it; will have him drooling; particularly if he's scraped together the last of his monthly wage in order to fund it. He sees the gift as an investment - but not in financial sense - it's an investment which continues to show the power his Mistress has over him - and how that power is now part of his physical being - as natural as breathing in and out.



THAT; ladies and gentlemen - is Financial Fetish!