Financial Fetish....many claim to practice it..few actually understand it.
Financial fetish is perhaps among the most complex of fetishes; given that the fact that it's primarily psychological. And what you think you know about Financial Fetish probably leans more towards fiction rather than fact.
First and foremost; Financial Fetish is primarily about power. It is perhaps one of the most extensive forms of slave control. The fact that it involves money is irrelevant. The financial aspect it secondary to the mechanics of the fetish. It is the complete power exchange which makes the fetish so very exciting to those who desire to explore it.
It is for this reason; it is imperative to research the fetish as fully as possible. And this is the advice I give to newbie slaves and Dommes alike. One cannot simply wake up one morning and decide they are going to be a Financial Dominatrix. Just like one cannot wake up one morning and decide to be a financial slave. The fetish requires you to have an extensive knowledge of all the facets of it before you even begin to practice it.
Perhaps the most common misconception about Financial Fetish is that Dommes can use bratty and abusive language to encourage slaves to give them money. Incorrect. You cannot force a slave to become your financial slave; particularly if they have never explored the fetish before. There has to be a desire and understanding on both sides. That is how you build trust in the relationship. If there isn't an amount of trust on either side; then that professional relationship is doomed to failure. Neither are you exercising the power you have over your financial slave. As I've stated before; the fetish is very much psychological. The key to Financial Fetish is having the power to make your slave WANT to hand over his money. A good Financial Dominatrix should never need to resort to demanding cash. If you have managed to stoke the fires of desire within your slave; it will be offered freely.
That said; there is nothing wrong with reiterating the control you have over your slave. Garnishing their salary is common practice; provided slave is agreeable. Provided you have begun the groundwork of establishing trust; your slave will happily submit with details of his finances so that you can work out a monthly budget. But don't get greedy unless you're a rinser. Like all forms of domination; respect is still of the highest importance. You're not going to bankrupt your slave (unless that is what he wants). You're going work with him to establish a realistic tribute budget.
And this is where the psychology of the fetish comes in. You are controlling various aspects of your slave's life; not just his finances. You're deciding what sacrifices he should make in order to make you happy. Wants and needs are important. He wants to go out on the piss with his mates next Friday; but he needs to make sure he has enough to meet his submissive obligations. And if he's a genuine financial slave; he'll happily cancel his plans for a night on the town - because being shown you're controlling this area of his life is very exciting to him. And while he's sat at home; instead of in the local pub; he'll be working himself up into an erotic frenzy simply because you have demonstrated the power you have over him. And it is this which will keep him coming back for more...
This is but a small example of the very nature of the fetish and it is up to you to research it further. The complexities of it are far too many to put in a simple blog entry. Many Financial Mistresses spend years learning the fetish to ensure they are fully knowledgeable. It is not something one can learn in a few hours.
But once you've done your research; it's time for you to put what you have learned into practice. Market yourself; but market yourself wisely. How you conduct yourself in your advertising reflects how well you know your stuff. And it's very easy to get it 100% wrong.
"Pay me because I deserve it, fag boy! Your #FinancialGoddess demands your cash!"
Incorrect. This is a tweet from somebody who is not only clueless about the fetish; but demonstrates how she is money orientated. As I've explained previously; Financial Fetish is NOT just about money. It's about power and having the power to make your slave WANT to tribute you. And if you are indeed motivated by money; and believe the ridiculous myth that it's "easy money" - Financial Fetish definitely isn't for you.
"Does Financial Domination put you in a quiver? Find out more about the ULTIMATE form of control!"
Now this is a good example of how to market your services. You're talking about it from slave's point of view. You're showing that you understand how Financial Fetish makes a financial slave really feel. You're also showing that you understand about the fetish. You've done your homework - and because you've done your homework; you're more likely to gain interest.
So what happens once you've gained the interest of a financial slave? Well this is good advice for both Dommes and subs alike.
Most experienced Financial Mistresses will expect a tribute up front. This is not a sign of greed. Nor it is a sign that they are "fake" (although this is an accusation some have experienced.)
As a genuine financial slave; the onus is on you to prove first; how much you understand the fetish and secondly; how you propose to go forward. And think carefully when you make your initial tribute. How much you spend will often determine whether or not you will receive a response to your application. Again; this is not a signal that Mistress is greedy. It is what separates the true financial slaves from the players.
Players are those who a) don't know about the fetish b)seek to waste the time of Mistress and c) do not have the correct mind-set to explore the fetish. An experienced Mistress will spot a player very quickly - even before they have sent tribute. Players will often make ridiculous suggestions of what they can afford - and in reality won't send a penny. Secondly; on the rare occasions they do send tribute; they will expect something in return - that isn't Financial Fetish. The fact that you are enjoying the power Mistress has over you; is the very essence of the fetish.
In addition; players are attracted to those who practice the fetish but in reality know nothing about it. In other words "instadommes". Yes; those girls how use foul language and demand money. Those who tweet intimate pictures in return for money. Players love these because they know full well they can lead them a merry dance. They exploit the girls' ignorance and lack of knowledge; turning their time-wasting behaviour into a fetish all on it's own.
Those girls who have been burned by players will often tweet about them "avoid @fredbloggs - #timewaster!" Yep - you've just given said player what he wants - attention and acknowledgement. He knows he's gotten to you and has achieved exactly what he set out to do.
I personally can spot a player before they've realised it - they never get a response. And I won't reward them with undeserved attention.
So how to tribute? Again; this demonstrates the importance of doing your homework. Most will set out exactly how they expect tribute. That means you respect those methods. You don't quibble about it and ask if they take other methods. Power and control is not about negotiation. And by demanding another tribute method; you're already attempting to control the relationship. Remember; it's always on Mistress' terms. Your needs and desires will be acknowledge should it be deemed necessary.
For the record; it is NEVER a good idea to offer Paypal as a method of tribute. Paypal do not accept payments for adult services - and you will quickly find your Paypal account permanently limited and all your money gone. Neither should you consider bank transfer until you have gotten to know your slave very well. And even then; you should exercise caution. Gift vouchers and NiteFlirt tributes are My recommendations.
So what happens after initial tribute?
Provided you have pleased Mistress with your initial tribute; She will contact you. Perhaps She may conduct an online interview with you to gauge just how extensive your knowledge of the fetish is. Or She may even send you a budget sheet for you to complete. I personally like to go down the "interview" route - and establish a rapport with said slave before working out a monthly budget. This will also help to deal with any fears or misconceptions from either of you - as well as establishing mutual trust. It's also a good idea to establish if slave would like things like verbal abuse to be part of the process.
Once the budget is worked out - REALISTICALLY; exploration begins. Slave will make his monthly tribute to Mistress without being asked. A good Financial Mistress should not need to remind him - nor should She have to demand it. It comes naturally - a part of slave's life. And of course if slave should happen to forget his obligations; he readily accepts financial penalties - again paying them without being asked. He will also ensure Mistress is aware of any "treats" he has planned for himself - a holiday, season ticket to his favourite football team - and as part of the control; Mistress will decide if he may have those treats. If She feels he doesn't deserve them; he goes without - and enjoys going without with the fully knowledge he's made that sacrifice to please Mistress. He will pay close attention to the needs of Mistress - make regular visits to any wishlists and look at how he can please Her with a gift. If Mistress sends him a picture of said received gift; he sees it as a bonus. But the fact he's sent it; will have him drooling; particularly if he's scraped together the last of his monthly wage in order to fund it. He sees the gift as an investment - but not in financial sense - it's an investment which continues to show the power his Mistress has over him - and how that power is now part of his physical being - as natural as breathing in and out.
THAT; ladies and gentlemen - is Financial Fetish!
Financial fetish is perhaps among the most complex of fetishes; given that the fact that it's primarily psychological. And what you think you know about Financial Fetish probably leans more towards fiction rather than fact.
First and foremost; Financial Fetish is primarily about power. It is perhaps one of the most extensive forms of slave control. The fact that it involves money is irrelevant. The financial aspect it secondary to the mechanics of the fetish. It is the complete power exchange which makes the fetish so very exciting to those who desire to explore it.
It is for this reason; it is imperative to research the fetish as fully as possible. And this is the advice I give to newbie slaves and Dommes alike. One cannot simply wake up one morning and decide they are going to be a Financial Dominatrix. Just like one cannot wake up one morning and decide to be a financial slave. The fetish requires you to have an extensive knowledge of all the facets of it before you even begin to practice it.
Perhaps the most common misconception about Financial Fetish is that Dommes can use bratty and abusive language to encourage slaves to give them money. Incorrect. You cannot force a slave to become your financial slave; particularly if they have never explored the fetish before. There has to be a desire and understanding on both sides. That is how you build trust in the relationship. If there isn't an amount of trust on either side; then that professional relationship is doomed to failure. Neither are you exercising the power you have over your financial slave. As I've stated before; the fetish is very much psychological. The key to Financial Fetish is having the power to make your slave WANT to hand over his money. A good Financial Dominatrix should never need to resort to demanding cash. If you have managed to stoke the fires of desire within your slave; it will be offered freely.
That said; there is nothing wrong with reiterating the control you have over your slave. Garnishing their salary is common practice; provided slave is agreeable. Provided you have begun the groundwork of establishing trust; your slave will happily submit with details of his finances so that you can work out a monthly budget. But don't get greedy unless you're a rinser. Like all forms of domination; respect is still of the highest importance. You're not going to bankrupt your slave (unless that is what he wants). You're going work with him to establish a realistic tribute budget.
And this is where the psychology of the fetish comes in. You are controlling various aspects of your slave's life; not just his finances. You're deciding what sacrifices he should make in order to make you happy. Wants and needs are important. He wants to go out on the piss with his mates next Friday; but he needs to make sure he has enough to meet his submissive obligations. And if he's a genuine financial slave; he'll happily cancel his plans for a night on the town - because being shown you're controlling this area of his life is very exciting to him. And while he's sat at home; instead of in the local pub; he'll be working himself up into an erotic frenzy simply because you have demonstrated the power you have over him. And it is this which will keep him coming back for more...
This is but a small example of the very nature of the fetish and it is up to you to research it further. The complexities of it are far too many to put in a simple blog entry. Many Financial Mistresses spend years learning the fetish to ensure they are fully knowledgeable. It is not something one can learn in a few hours.
But once you've done your research; it's time for you to put what you have learned into practice. Market yourself; but market yourself wisely. How you conduct yourself in your advertising reflects how well you know your stuff. And it's very easy to get it 100% wrong.
"Pay me because I deserve it, fag boy! Your #FinancialGoddess demands your cash!"
Incorrect. This is a tweet from somebody who is not only clueless about the fetish; but demonstrates how she is money orientated. As I've explained previously; Financial Fetish is NOT just about money. It's about power and having the power to make your slave WANT to tribute you. And if you are indeed motivated by money; and believe the ridiculous myth that it's "easy money" - Financial Fetish definitely isn't for you.
"Does Financial Domination put you in a quiver? Find out more about the ULTIMATE form of control!"
Now this is a good example of how to market your services. You're talking about it from slave's point of view. You're showing that you understand how Financial Fetish makes a financial slave really feel. You're also showing that you understand about the fetish. You've done your homework - and because you've done your homework; you're more likely to gain interest.
So what happens once you've gained the interest of a financial slave? Well this is good advice for both Dommes and subs alike.
Most experienced Financial Mistresses will expect a tribute up front. This is not a sign of greed. Nor it is a sign that they are "fake" (although this is an accusation some have experienced.)
As a genuine financial slave; the onus is on you to prove first; how much you understand the fetish and secondly; how you propose to go forward. And think carefully when you make your initial tribute. How much you spend will often determine whether or not you will receive a response to your application. Again; this is not a signal that Mistress is greedy. It is what separates the true financial slaves from the players.
Players are those who a) don't know about the fetish b)seek to waste the time of Mistress and c) do not have the correct mind-set to explore the fetish. An experienced Mistress will spot a player very quickly - even before they have sent tribute. Players will often make ridiculous suggestions of what they can afford - and in reality won't send a penny. Secondly; on the rare occasions they do send tribute; they will expect something in return - that isn't Financial Fetish. The fact that you are enjoying the power Mistress has over you; is the very essence of the fetish.
In addition; players are attracted to those who practice the fetish but in reality know nothing about it. In other words "instadommes". Yes; those girls how use foul language and demand money. Those who tweet intimate pictures in return for money. Players love these because they know full well they can lead them a merry dance. They exploit the girls' ignorance and lack of knowledge; turning their time-wasting behaviour into a fetish all on it's own.
Those girls who have been burned by players will often tweet about them "avoid @fredbloggs - #timewaster!" Yep - you've just given said player what he wants - attention and acknowledgement. He knows he's gotten to you and has achieved exactly what he set out to do.
I personally can spot a player before they've realised it - they never get a response. And I won't reward them with undeserved attention.
So how to tribute? Again; this demonstrates the importance of doing your homework. Most will set out exactly how they expect tribute. That means you respect those methods. You don't quibble about it and ask if they take other methods. Power and control is not about negotiation. And by demanding another tribute method; you're already attempting to control the relationship. Remember; it's always on Mistress' terms. Your needs and desires will be acknowledge should it be deemed necessary.
For the record; it is NEVER a good idea to offer Paypal as a method of tribute. Paypal do not accept payments for adult services - and you will quickly find your Paypal account permanently limited and all your money gone. Neither should you consider bank transfer until you have gotten to know your slave very well. And even then; you should exercise caution. Gift vouchers and NiteFlirt tributes are My recommendations.
So what happens after initial tribute?
Provided you have pleased Mistress with your initial tribute; She will contact you. Perhaps She may conduct an online interview with you to gauge just how extensive your knowledge of the fetish is. Or She may even send you a budget sheet for you to complete. I personally like to go down the "interview" route - and establish a rapport with said slave before working out a monthly budget. This will also help to deal with any fears or misconceptions from either of you - as well as establishing mutual trust. It's also a good idea to establish if slave would like things like verbal abuse to be part of the process.
Once the budget is worked out - REALISTICALLY; exploration begins. Slave will make his monthly tribute to Mistress without being asked. A good Financial Mistress should not need to remind him - nor should She have to demand it. It comes naturally - a part of slave's life. And of course if slave should happen to forget his obligations; he readily accepts financial penalties - again paying them without being asked. He will also ensure Mistress is aware of any "treats" he has planned for himself - a holiday, season ticket to his favourite football team - and as part of the control; Mistress will decide if he may have those treats. If She feels he doesn't deserve them; he goes without - and enjoys going without with the fully knowledge he's made that sacrifice to please Mistress. He will pay close attention to the needs of Mistress - make regular visits to any wishlists and look at how he can please Her with a gift. If Mistress sends him a picture of said received gift; he sees it as a bonus. But the fact he's sent it; will have him drooling; particularly if he's scraped together the last of his monthly wage in order to fund it. He sees the gift as an investment - but not in financial sense - it's an investment which continues to show the power his Mistress has over him - and how that power is now part of his physical being - as natural as breathing in and out.
THAT; ladies and gentlemen - is Financial Fetish!
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