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Monday, 27 April 2015

Free-Loaders - How to spot them - and how to exterminate them!



Today I want to talk about free-loaders. You will have probably heard Me use this term very often. And for those of you who don't understand what a free-loaders is; you're about to receive some education.

A free-loader who is somebody who seeks your attention or a cam show, but has no intention of paying for it. They've probably exhausted every free-porn site on the net and now want a taste of a live show...but expect it for free. They haven't had to pay for their porn before, so why should they pay for it now, live or not?

Let’s face it – free-loaders are scum. They are leeches who plague Dommes and camgirls because in their warped imagination; they feel we OWE it to them to give them free attention. We are just a stranger on a webcam and because of that they feel they shouldn’t have to pay for our time. Hell, we only exist so they can get their rocks off, right? Without them, we wouldn’t even be on cam…WRONG!

The fact is, we don’t need the attention of free-loaders.  And it seriously is messed up thinking that they expect us to help them “cum” or live out their sexual fantasies for nothing. It’s not going to happen.  They are simply stealing our time and our attention and taking advantage at the same time.
Seriously, would you go into a restaurant; have a slap-up 4 course meal, and say “yeah, I feel satisfied now, but don’t bother sending me the bill. I’m having this for nothing!”? No of course you wouldn’t. And would you take your car into the garage, have it serviced and then say “yeah this is on the house – you need to service my car. I don’t need you!” Nope, that wouldn’t happen either.

The restaurant and the garage amount to the same – they are providing a service. So are we. And because we are providing a service; we expect to be PAID for it. It’s not about demanding you give us money because you owe us. It’s about the fact that we are giving you one on one attention, taking time out of our day to speak to you, performing on webcam for you, as SERVICE – not out of the goodness of our hearts. Yeah, some of us may be as sweet as sugar – but we’re not stupid and you’re not a charity case.

Day in, day out I encounter freeloaders – mostly on AdultWork  Direct Cam. Yes, I could choose not to use the free preview option – but in all honesty, if it wasn't for the freeloaders – it would be a nifty little marketing tool. Sometimes I’ll offer free preview throughout my entire shift, sometimes I’ll offer it for a limited time – just to whet their appetite.  But I won’t EVER give them a full cam show for free.

The thing is; most free-loaders are subtle about it. But not so subtle that I don’t know what they’re up to. The ones who hang around in free preview asking endless questions..yeah, they’re stealing your attention away from those who are happy to pay for your time. The ones who claim they will go private if you stand up, show your feet,  or any other part of your body – yeah right, I’ve heard THAT one before. Try before you buy – not in My cam room.

And then there are those who are blatant – and yes I have had a few of these. I had one recently, who gave the game away by asking; “what do you do in free?” Now this speaks volumes. Translated it means  “I’m a free-loader. I’m not going to pay – but you’re going to give me what I want in free preview..”  No, I’m not. And with that, like every other free-loader – he was kicked out. And even though it’s a six week block via Adultwork, I shall remember him – and keep kicking him out until he gets the message and stops trying.

Free-loaders find themselves in for a big disappointment when they try it on with Me. I don’t give anything away. No teasing flashes of feet, no Skype address, no kik usernames, no explicit chat – NOTHING until they have paid. If they send gifts, they don’t get ANYTHING until gift is received (yes, free-loaders like to cancel gifts as well). In fact, if they’re unknown to Me, they tribute via gift certificate until they have proven themselves trustworthy. No tribute – no attention. This is also why I only take Amazon GC as tribute. I don’t take Paypal, not just because Paypal  doesn’t allow it but because payments can be reversed or cancelled.

I also apply the same approach with emails. I have a 3 email rule – they will get a response to 3 emails and no more. After that; they are expected to tribute. No tribute means no more emails to them. This applies to both My personal email address and the AdultWork/NiteFlirt email system. Just think about it – while you’re sending emails to them; they’re stealing your time and attention and probably getting a free wank in the process.

The trick is to be vigilant. Don’t give it away – give an inch and they will take a yard.  And trust your gut. If you instincts tell you “okay, this guy is after a freebie” get rid of them. Don’t allow them to steal your attention away from those who are paying for you time. If they claim they have “sent tribute” double check. If they tip in Direct Cam – verify they have tipped before doing a show. Yes, that is a popular scam as well – fake tips. If they attempt to chat with you on Skype – remind them at once that they must pay tribute. Then don’t engage in any further conversation with them until they have made that tribute If they don’t  tribute; get rid of them – those who are genuine will be only too happy to tribute. Those who come up with excuse after excuse, or try the old “delay tactics” have no intention of paying. Yes, I’m referring to those who attempt to chat after you have told them to make a tribute – they aren’t going to pay – so you aren’t going to talk to them.

Oh and those on twitter who ask you to follow them – they’re free-loaders. (And more often than not; are the twitter "egg".)  A genuine sub knows that to be granted the honour of a follow; he has to tribute. Same goes for those who send you a DM when you have specifically told them to email you – they ignore your demand and continue to message you. Yeah – ignore them – they don’t want to tribute either.


Be smart; be up front and tell them straight – you want it, you pay for it. And STICK to it. Don’t be swayed by promises, offers or even threats (yes, I’ve been threatened with bad feedback by a free-loader! Like him, his threat meant nothing.)  It’s YOUR cam room or cam business at the end of the day. And it’s YOUR rules.  If they can’t follow them, then they have no business approaching you.



Saturday, 18 January 2014

How To Spot A Time-Waster And Avoid Being Scammed!

Yesterday I encountered another time-waster who "promised" to purchase a pair of very sexy PVC thigh boots from My Wishlist and then blocked Me on twitter. On exposing this cretin, I had a chat with another victim of his, who informed Me that he was actually a nasty hacker - hacking into Dommes and Camgirls twitter accounts and posting really rather nasty tweets about them. His details have been circulated around twitter and with Time-Wasting subs so others know to avoid his nasty ass.

So today, I decide to a blog entry for all new Dommes, Findoms and Camgirls on the scene. This entry is about time-wasters and how to spot one BEFORE you become a victim.


  1. "Mistress - I want you to drain my wallet! I will give you all my money - please allow me to serve you!" Ok this is a classic time-waster line. I can guarantee you that this loser has no intention of parting with any cash whatsoever. You will give him instructions on how to contact you, and he'll continue to send you messages of this nature - without following your instructions. He will make endless promises of "tributes" whilst failing to deliver.
  2. "Mistress - I will tribute you £1000 per month!" Okay, like the one above -  he won't tribute £1000 a month. He won't even tribute £1 a month. Another loser who talks the talk but can't walk the walk.
  3. "Mistress - I want to obey you. I will do anything you ask of me!" No he won't. The moment you ask for tribute for a session or an initial tribute you won't see him for dust.
  4. "Mistress - if you send Me a picture I will send you a tribute!" Yes, and pigs fly out of My ass! You'll send him a pic of yourself, he'll look at it and jerk off and you won't hear anything else from him.
  5. "Mistress - will you add Me on Skype?" Ok, so there's two possibilities here. You add him Skype and he will Skype call you without paying for a session. Or he'll send you endless messages begging for your attention.When it comes to the crunch of him paying for a session - "puff" he'll suddenly disappear.
  6. "I don't have any money right now. But I get paid tomorrow - can I tribute then?" He won't tribute because in his world, tomorrow never comes. You won't hear from him.
  7. "If you add my cam in free, I'll take you to private!" Of course he will...NOT! He'll get a free cam session, jack off and leave - without paying!
  8. "I'd really like to get to know you before I serve you. Can we have a chat?" Another classic line - you'll chat endlessly, and he'll gladly waste your time. But he won't pay - even when you tell him it's time to pay for your time. Suddenly he'll end the chat and disappear - or claim he's sending a tribute and then block you on Skype.
  9. "Mistress, if you show Me your ass/boots/stand up etc, I'll take you private!" Nope, he wants a free show. He won't enter private - he'll see what he wants to see and then disappear.
  10. "Yes Mistress, I will purchase that gift tomorrow." He won't - if he's serious about purchasing a gift he'll do it there and then. If he's serious about sending a gift card, he'll do it there and then. Don't fall for it.
So how do you make sure you don't have your time wasted by these cretins? Well it's simple, just follow the steps below:

  1. Always ask for first tributes to be made via Amazon Gift Card, and as soon as it comes through, redeem it right away. Gift cards can be cancelled, but not if they are redeemed.
  2. Stay away from Paypal - payments can be reversed. If you must use Paypal (not recommended for first time tributes), ensure you withdraw the money to your bank account immediately to reduce the chance of it being reversed.
  3. Don't give your time away for free. If they want an initial chat with you via Skype or Yahoo, then charge them a small add fee. £5 is more than enough and a genuine sub will pay it. But always make sure they send this fee via Amazon Gift Card.
  4. Your initial chat should last no more than 10 mins. If they want longer or they want cam or voice, then it's time for them to book a session. Again, first tribute should be in Amazon Gift Card.
  5. There is nothing wrong with asking for an initial tribute when taking on a new financial sub. If they are genuine they will pay it. I charge around £25, but always via Amazon Gift Card.
  6. Don't send photos for free. It's quite alright to post ones to promote yourself. But if they want something extra special, they have to tribute first.
  7. If you are offering a show in return for gifts, always wait for the gift to arrive. Don't assume that because they've ordered a gift, it will come. Orders can be cancelled and you will have given them a cam show for free.
  8. Watermark all photos - yes there are some cretins out there who like to steal pictures. 
  9. If you're doing a free preview via AdultWork, make it clear that you will NOT add their cam in free, you will NOT stand up, show your ass, or whatever. If they want to see more, then they have to pay for a show. If they are genuine, they will enter paid chat. If they aren't; the moment you advise them off this, they'll leave your chat room like rats off a sinking ship.
  10. Always check new subs against BDSM Time-wasters. There is a comprehensive list there of all those who have tried to waste the time of Dommes, including those who are nasty enough to hack, stalk, or otherwise put Ladies at risk. If you see their name on that list; avoid them.
  11. If a sub starts talking money before he's even introduced himself, then don't even give them the time of day. He won't pay.
  12. Make sure passwords to all your accounts like twitter, facebook, email are changed regularly - I change all Mine once a month - this reduces the chances of hacking.
  13. NEVER use Western Union - a classic route of all time-wasters. Not only could he get personal details about you, but payments are often cancelled.
  14. NEVER take money by bank transfer - I don't think you need Me to spell out the risks there!
  15. Always ensure payment has been made and cleared, be it by Amazon gift card or Paypal BEFORE any session. And before the session begins, redeem all vouchers and withdraw all monies from Paypal.
  16. Cam Verification is important - but many will see you on cam for about 30 seconds before a session and then disappear. Charge a small fee for cam verification. If they are genuine, they will pay it.
  17. If you are a member of Findoms - don't give your attention to any unverified subs. Don't accept friends requests from them. If they haven't bothered to cash verify, they won't bother to tribute you.

Saturday, 7 December 2013