Time-waster becomes the time-wastee!

So this weekend; I was approached by a well-known time-waster who was absolutely gagging for a forced-intox/rinsing session. Unfortunately for him; I always keep My ear to the ground. I'm also intelligent enough to spot a time-waster before they even start their little games.

This one is known for cancelling gifts and is very famous around the findom scene for doing so. He has a session; buys shit loads of stuff from a wishlist then cancels it. And he does this repeatedly. I'm well aware of his activities. So I decided to turn the tables and give him a taste of his own medicine.

After he sent two tributes for £50; he wanted to have said intox session with Me. I told him I expected the session fee. He argued that he'd just paid Me £100. And here's where he incriminates himself further. A good financial slave knows the difference between "fees" and "tributes....

So; I told him to go and research Financial Fetish; since it was painfully clear he knew very little about it. And I instructed him to do this why I dangled the possibility of his much craved for forced intox session in front of him. This morning he contacted Me again; stating that he'd researched it "a bit"; thus falling even further into My trap. My next task for him to was to write an essay on financial fetish; telling him that if his essay pleased Me, I would indeed grant him a forced intox session - provided he paid the session fee of course. This he agreed to do.

However. here's what he tried to pass off as his own work:

Moneyslaves in true form give tributes often consisting of all their disposable income - this is done under their own volition and without any expectation. They are happy in the knowledge they are making a Dominant's life easier and happier whilst giving purpose and meaning to their own. Over and above this some like to have the boundaries pushed to the extent life becomes hard for them when the Dominant demands over and above the contributor's disposable income. Sometimes other elements of play and control can be included such as chastity, mind games, tasks, cam sessions, use of Teamviewer, realtime shopping etc.

Of course, pain and degradation are inherent to BDSM, and in many respects financial domination is no different from many other BDSM fetishes; it often overlaps with other kinks, including foot fetishes, erotic hypnosis and enforced chastity. Yet through practices like wallet draining, wallet rape, ATM draining or TeamViewer sessions, in which dommes log into subs’ bank accounts via remote computer access software, findommes take humiliation to an entirely different level. “One of the primary tenets of BDSM is that people want to be hurt,” financial domme Anastasia (not her real name) tells me. “This is a very particular way in which people want to be hurt.”

Although findom practices vary widely from domme to domme, most of the dommes  interact with submissives via BDSM social networking services like Dommedose and Kinkbomb, where they arrange individual cam sessions for an initial tribute (there are also thousands of findom videos on YouTube, many of which feature dommes counting their money or showing off gifts they’ve received from subs). From there, subs are expected to send ever-larger tributes to attract dommes’ attentions, from $25 Amazon gift cards to thousands of dollars in one session. Submissives are also encouraged to buy gifts from dommes’ Amazon wishlists. The items on these lists vary widely in price and glamor: Fang’s, for instance, includes a lilac and lace bustier, a bottle of black nail polish, and a silicone potato masher.

To those in the vanilla world, the relationship between a financial domme and a sub doesn’t seem that far removed from that of a sugar baby and a sugar daddy, or a mistress whose lavish lifestyle is subsidized by a wealthy, older male. Dr. Sue Storm, the host of Canadian BDSM podcast In Bed With Dr. Sue, says the distinction between the two arises from the lack of physical intimacy between the domme and the sub. “Sugar babies are kept in beautiful condos and are showered with gifts and they reciprocate with sex, whereas the financial domme does not,” says Storm. “With a sugar baby, she’s just there, ready, whenever you want her. With the financial domme, it’s the other way around.”

Unlike sugar daddies, financial submissives are not necessarily in a higher socioeconomic bracket than their dommes. Many dommes say their slaves range from well-off older males to college kids working minimum-wage jobs. “Wealthier men are more likely to be into financial domination, but there are a lot of poor fin subs also,” Fang says. Domme Kyaa, a financial domme who is currently the highest earner on Kinkbomb, agrees: “It’s financial domination whether you’re taking 5 dollars from someone who works at McDonald’s or taking 500 dollars from some CEO. It’s all about the sacrifice and having to spend more than is comfortable.”

Most financial dommes do not do “real-time” domination — meaning they rarely, if ever, meet their subs face to face. As is the case with any online subculture, this shroud of anonymity creates the conditions for a veritable kink playground, where dommes are free to adopt any persona they like. With her cyan-colored hair and professed interest in gaming and comic books, Fang draws in more introverted, nerdier subs.

For subs and dommes alike, it’s this blurring of reality and fantasy, the lack of distinction between hazy fantasies of submission and the harsh truths of an ever-whittling bank account, that makes financial domination so appealing — and so disturbing to outsiders. Unlike most workers in the industry, financial dommes are selling a service less tangible than straight-up sex, which has led many to label them as lazy con artists. “We are usually portrayed as scamming prostitutes,” Miss Pinky Galore, a financial domme1 who also works as the administrator of findom website Greedy Snobs, tells me. “Which, ironically enough, is a good thing to those men who ‘get off’ on being scammed.”

Even in the world of online BDSM, where pretty much anything goes as long as it’s safe and consensual — enforced chastity, cock-and-ball torture, even fart fetishes — there’s an element of financial domination that strikes many as unsavory or taboo. “No one talks about it, and no one really wants to talk about it,” says Storm. “[Because] whenever you’re talking about anything in the BDSM world, it always comes back to an exchange of power and control. Well, what’s the biggest thing that you can take control over? One is [another person’s] medical care. The other is their finances. Whenever you talk money, people freak out.”

Pinky Galore concurs: “Money can hurt a lot harder than a whip sometimes. It’s a very sexy and powerful weapon.”

Silly boy - all he managed was a cut and paste job. And he attempted to insult My intelligence by expecting Me to swallow this as his own work. Little did he know; that all the time he was panting in anticipation of having a session with Me; I was doing some research of My own. It's amazing the things you find when you study somebody's twitter time-line. It's also interesting what happens when you chat to other Dommes about him - they often give you the low-down to confirm what you already know!

The upshot is he got his just desserts. I took his money and ran. I played him like a well-strung violin; just like he's done to many other Dommes. I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of playing him like the fool he is; as he fell deeper and deeper into My not so sweet honey-trap. Conning him the way he's conned many other Dommes, was absolutely delicious - almost orgasmic in fact. And I don't feel in the slightest bit sorry about it. He tried to fool Me...but in reality; he's the fool for even trying!